Escorts and feminism

Feminism has many forms, but they each influence the perspectives of all men and women who are, inadvertently, influenced by the gender war that goes on in society. Just by being members of society, men and women are subjected to conflicting messages from the official media that scare them with the tales of evil patriarchal civilization, or independent media that expose the severe anti-male bias of the Western status quo. The escort industry is deeply impacted by the feminist effect on society and its members.

The gender war pits men and women against each other: every war is good that keeps everyone too busy to notice the man behind the curtain. Since the 1960s and 1970s, as the race war lost its edge, the gender war has become more embittered. Today, men are pre-guilty of every imaginable crime just because they are male, while women dream about equality, even though for them equality would mean less rights, less privilege and more work.

Because of all of this, the escort industry thrives. Within the escort industry, driven by the market rather than centrally managed by rich old people, everybody is right. Male clients may ask that traditional role-playing fantasies be played out, without fear of judgment or accusations of being chauvinistic. Women are allowed to feel sensual, sexy and powerful, without fear of losing their traditional femininity. Women can dominate or act like sluts, and it’s OK, because it’s nobody else’s business.

There are many different aspects of feminism that have built up to the third-wave of feminism we know today. All aspects have directly impacted society. The basic definition of feminism includes the many theories and ideologies that define, establish and defend issues important to women, but they all share one goal: to drive a wedge between women and men by creating a perception that humankind, as a unity, does not exist; that women and their aspirations are isolated from the rest of the world. This arbitrary isolation of the part of a group is a successful foundation for the gender war, in which, as in any war, the only winners are politicians. Political, economic and social rights for women have been deeply influenced by feminism theories and actions. Women have gained the right to own property, suffrage and many other qualities before the law as a result of feminist activities. Equal opportunities in both education and employment are now possibilities due to the efforts of historical feminists.

Feminist theories have evolved over the years in order to understand the nature of gender inequality that human beings experience. The theories examine social roles and lived experiences in order to analyze society and its actions. Feminist theories about social construction of sex and gender have become some of the most popular ideologies that have spun off new movements throughout history. Many movements of today focus on protecting women from exploitation, violence, sexual harassment and sexual assault – compared to none such movements for men or, ideally, humans as a whole.

During the late 20th century, feminists made the argument that gender roles are socially constructed. Meaning that the stereotypical roles that men and women take on are embodied by society’s depiction of them. The media through advertising, movies, news and other elements enforce and maintain an idea of gender roles that suits the agenda of their clients. For instance, the television shows of the 1950s and early-1960s depict traditional nuclear families: the men work outside the home, and the woman stays home to manage the home and raise the children. The woman wears high heels, pearls and is the “perfect wife and mother”. This is only one example of how society attempted to construct its gender roles to its expectations.

During the 1970s, as the powers that be realized that, on one hand, they didn’t want the population to grow, and on the other hand, they wanted every human being, not just men, to work for them, they introduced the Sex Wars. As the idea of a strong and healthy family was being destroyed, sexuality was allowed into a decent conversation. As pornography and the sex industry became more accepted (or at least less taboo), arguments between anti-sex and pro-sex feminists erupted. Questions about the fundamental nature of sex and sexuality were asked and never fully answered. The question as to whether pornography was an issue of violence against women or whether it was simply free speech was posed. The appropriateness and political correctness of sex acts were judged. Other elements that were introduced on a massive scale along with the Sex Wars included lesbianism, sadomasochism, transsexuality, and masturbation. Anything that prevents people from bringing children into the world of diminishing resources is currently encouraged and promoted.

One powerful proponent of the anti-sex segment was Andrea Dworkin who characterized the theme of pornography to be male power and countered it as damaging to women. She exerted that porn was not only damaging to the women who acted in it, but also to women as a result of male consumption. She argued that men internalized the misogynistic portrayals of women in porn and then expected that same portrayal to play out in real life.

Pro-sex feminism is represented by the “primacy of pleasure” theory, whereby the exchange of physical and genital pleasure is a positive experience for both men and women, equally. They pushed for women to feel empowered sexually and to become comfortable with their libidos and desires. Sexual freedom and freedom from fear of oppression were paramount goals for this segment of the feminist movement.

One of the most prominent figures in the “pro-sex” movement is Gayle Rubin, who authored Thinking Sex: Notes for the Radical Theory of the Politics of Sexuality. In her piece, which is considered one of the major theoretical cornerstones of pro-sex feminism, she asserts that much contributes to the politics of sexuality, including various sex panics throughout American history, ideological hurdles that impede people from developing a radical theory of sexuality and how our society categorizes types of sexuality as “good” and others as “bad”. She was one of the first to speak out on sex liberation as a feminist goal.

With all of this talk about gender roles and sexuality, it makes one wonder about women who are engaged in the sex industry. How did they get there? Why do they do it? What are their motivations? What alternatives do they have?

We are told that many women throughout history had no other choice than to begin work as a prostitute or courtesan. Because life has not always been equal for women, few opportunities were afforded to them if they did not have a man to take care of them or were not educated. During America’s frontier period, many women became widowed or lost their parents early and found themselves without anywhere to go or any method to earn an income. With no desire to learn anything, they chose to enter into the business of selling themselves. Some people, who were smart and capable, made exceptional earnings and obtained stances in their communities afforded only to well-to-do individuals. They built businesses and were respected for their services to the community. However, others didn’t fare nearly as well. As we assume that many women entered into the “woman of the night” career field because they had no other means to support themselves, some simply desired a more exciting lifestyle where they could be themselves without regret or apologies.

Today, people enter the escort industry for many different reasons, although the most significant reason may be due to economic considerations. Even today, there are few other careers that enable human beings to burst through the glass ceiling like the sex industry does. People are able to earn incomes that are equal to or exceed others’ incomes within the sex industry. Whether it is fair or not, it is a simple fact of life. Because people may desire to be successful and earn an exceptional income, they may choose to enter the world of escorting. Economics is still a significant motivator.

The feminist movement has a huge impact on the escort industry and the sex industry, as a whole. Many feminists support the position that prostitution and escorting is an extension of an intolerable form of male violence. One argument against prostitution comes from Scott Anderson, PhD, associate professor at University of British Columbia. He stated that, “Prostitution plays a key role in sustaining the social inequality of women. It does so by defining women in general as sexual objects, available to any man who desires them.” He further argues that the very nature of prostitution grants men power and control because they are paying for a woman’s body. What he conveniently ignores, however, is the fact that nobody is forced to accept the role of a prostitute and is thus free to avoid any associated objectification.

This omission does not evade other group of human rights fighters, who believe that most women and men involved in the industry are not forced into situations and that freedom of choice enables them to make their own decisions. Sex-positive advocates assert that women and men who engage in work as escorts embrace open views of sexuality and pleasure and are active agents in their lives and work. Men and women have control over their circumstances because they control the fees they charge, the services they provide and the time they spend.

However, pro- and anti-sex feminists must agree on one basic fact: we live in a society that influences how people perceive sex work. Because men are stereotypically the leaders, bread-winners and supporters, women who enter into the industry are still granting power to men within their relationships, working or otherwise. Clients of both sexes who purchase the time and services of escorts are still calling the shots… they maintain control by indicating what they want from the encounter, determining the level of rates they are willing to pay and requiring escorts to bow to their wishes.

Because feminism has clouded the criteria of relationships, it’s difficult for men and women to agree upon the type of relationships they want and seek. While men and women are traditionally and socially educated to want one thing (such as more traditional gender roles), they may never be able to find this due to other social variables entering into the picture. Some women want to be equal partners; some want to be more equal – some men cannot bow to this, some don’t care, and some, after 40 years of brainwashing, have successfully reoriented themselves to ponies and gay porn. There are also just unexplainable differences between men and women and what they expect from one another, thus the famous book title: Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.

Escorts are like drugs. You know what and how much of it you will get for your money. There is rarely a lie.

Officially endorsed and promoted feminism has sent many men running into the arms of escorts to escape the inevitable battle of equality with traditional partners. Male clients seek out escorts so they can feel needed and appreciated; they hire escorts to avoid selling their freedom in exchange for a simple pleasure. They appreciate the femininity of escorts.

With escorts, no one will run away with your best friend, no one will total your car while you are trying to make money, no one will steal your kid, home or savings. It’s clean and straightforward, if you want it to be.

Identifying women as a subject of sexual desire is entirely natural, especially when you’re with an escort. A man doesn’t have to feel guilty about his natural reaction to a beautiful woman’s body or mind.

In fact, escorts of today should thank the many feminists of years past for the success they encounter in their careers. If not for the battles that men and women are consistently embroiled in, the desire for relations with escorts might not be as prevalent as it is. Ultimately, the cheapest and easiest solution for personal pleasure comes from escorts, where there are neither hidden fees nor strings attached.