Things you never considered about porn star escorts

You’ve seen her in films and lusted after her through your online porn portals, but you never thought you’d ever actually have the chance to hook up with your favorite porn star in person. Well, believe it or not, it’s becoming increasingly more common for porn stars to do double duty as personal escorts. But, before you move forward with any misconceived ideas, be aware that things are not always as you might expect for them to be with a porn star escort. Come to these realizations before attempting to finagle a booking with her:

  1. She might have turned to escorting due to a changing pornography environment. According to Salon.com, the talent pools are much larger than in the past, the number of available roles are declining and “the advent of digital piracy has driven performers’ rates down.” In order to supplement her income and maintain the same level of luxury she is accustomed to, your chosen porn star escort may have listed herself on various directories. Consider her choice to become an escort as an alternative to dipping into her savings or altering her current lifestyle. While many escorts choose that career from the “get go,” your porn star escort didn’t. She chose another career that may have been very lucrative at one time. But, she is finding that she must resort to other forms of adult entertainment to sustain her income. As a result, she may be a work in progress. An escort often chooses the career, because she is a people person. A porn star doesn’t have to be a “people person” to be successful, so she may have some adjustments to make in her public relations efforts.
  2. She is accustomed to always battling the law in her career. Walking the line between legal and illegal is something that people in the porn industry are used to. Regulations, testing and a myriad of other hoops to jump through are just part of the game. Engaging in the escort industry also provides her with many limitations about how she may market herself and what she can outright offer to clients. Your porn star escort is very aware of these legalities, or should be, and will not promise you anything specific, except for enjoyable time spent with her during an encounter. She is hiring herself out to you as a companion, not sex slave, dom, dirty school girl or anything else. She is agreeing to spend time with you doing an enjoyable activity that you both consent to. Yes, she has sex on camera in front of lots of people. But, don’t ask her lots of questions during the booking process about what you can expect her to do with you — these could get her (and YOU) in extreme trouble with the law, depending on the context it’s perceived in.
  3. She is used to slut shaming. Porn stars aren’t exactly put on pedestals by the vast majority of the general public. They are considered dirty, second rate citizens by many and criticized for their “apparent lack of morals” and bad influence on weak viewers. Pornography is credited with being an instigator of lust, so anyone involved with the industry must naturally be evil, too. The level of shaming that occurs to porn stars is pretty equivalent to the ostracism of escorts by society, too. Either way, individuals in both of these careers have learned to have thick skins and not give too much consideration to what others think of them. Your approval or disappointment of their services/appearance/etc. won’t phase them much, as they have learned to depend on their own value systems to determine their own worth. While you may feel like your praise or admiration should mean more to them, it doesn’t due to the fact that it’s a job, plain and simple, to them. Your personal opinion of them is of no consequence.
  4. What you see in the films isn’t a good predictor of real life. If you really loved some especially raucous scene she appeared in during her latest video, don’t just naturally assume that she will engage in the same activities with you. Many of the scenes you view are carefully orchestrated, with trusted costars on the set with a lot of trust built between them. You and your escort do not know each other, so her trust in you to cautiously engage in trickier positions isn’t established. Additionally, the fact that she’s a porn star in her alternate career is not an indicator that she will provide the PSE (porn star experience) to clients. She may be strictly a GFE (girlfriend experience) provider or choose to participate in another niche. Discuss your questions with her in order to be on the same page with her about your booking. And, don’t be dismayed that her on-screen and escort persona are not one in the same.
  5. She may look different. Porn actresses are gussied up by professional make-up artists, wardrobe specialists and hair stylists before they step one foot on set for videoing. She is specially made up and dressed for the role she is playing. However, when she arrives at your door, she is not playing a specific role (unless you’ve requested one and she’s agreed). She is herself, as the escort. On-set make-up and hair may not be highly appropriate for going out during the day to meet up with you. She would probably look very conspicuous, which doesn’t help you retain any elements of secrecy about your rendezvous. It’s possible that she will still look fabulous, but much like any other beautiful woman you might see. Don’t feel like she’s not putting out all of the stops for you. Her escort “look” may differ greatly from the image you see in your favorite scene.
  6. She gets tired of acting out your favorite scene. Yes, you may love the cheerleader video or the one where she does her boss on the boardroom table. But, for her, that was one role or one scene. She also performed several other scenes that were awesome, too. Reenacting the same thing over and over may be exhilerating for you, but it’s incredibly tiresome for her, especially if this is the only thing clients ask for. Be sensitive to her suggestions to try something different or to go off script, so to speak. You may find that her imagination for activities is even better than what you saw online when you watched her. And, don’t be surprised if a porn star escort refuses to reenact scenes. She may have disliked it in the first place and won’t want to engage in it with you.
  7. She will make you wear condoms. Many clients who visit with a porn actress escort for the first time naturally assume that they will not be forced to wear any kind of protection during the intimate part of the booking. After all, escorts don’t engage in activities with male porn stars wearing condoms. So, it makes sense that a client would assume they wouldn’t have to wear a condom, either. However, porn actors and actresses are regularly tested for sexually transmitted diseases and infections before they step foot on set. The clean bill of health ensures that they will not be spreading illness to one another. But, if they engage in unprotected sex with clients, they are working without any kind of safety net, so to speak, and putting themselves at risk for illness and not being able to return to work in the porn industry, if they contract something from you. Just know that, like with any other escort, you will be wearing a condom for intimate moments.
  8. You are paying for a porn actress escort’s time, not her sexual expertise. When you book an encounter with any escort, you are offering her money for the block of time she will be with you. While you may lust even harder after an escort who also happens to be a porn actress, you are still booking time with her, not the promise of anything more. Don’t think that you can up the ante by suggesting you’ll pay extra for a certain service. It won’t work. She is an escort and charges for her time. She cannot legally charge or accept payment for anything beyond that. However, the amount she charges may reflect her expertise sexually and the allure she holds with her notoeriety as a porn industry favorite. But, your requests for specific services cannot determine what her rate will be, legally.
  9. Shallow compliments will mean nothing to her. As a beautiful woman in an industry where looks matter significantly, she is used to hearing that she’s gorgeous. Being told that she’s sexy is pretty commonplace… after all, it’s her job to look sexy. If you want to compliment a porn actress escort, you’re going to have to come up with something more original and personal. Generic pick up lines and old-standby praise won’t cut through with her. While it’s always courteous to tell her she looks great at the start of an encounter, you will need to think a little harder to give her a compliment that counts. Additionally, giving her great admiration at the beginning of a booking won’t mean as much as it will afterward. During the encounter, take note of great qualities she possesses. Compliment her on her laugh, her wit or something else that isn’t as apparent in the videos you watch on your tablet at night.
  10. She will charge high fees for her bookings. If you think you’re going to get by with a bargain-basement price for an encounter, think again! Porn actresses charge elevated fees for escort encounters, because their time is in high demand. Clients know how they look, what they can do and are excited about getting a chance to get it on with them. Due to the excitement surrounding spending time with a real, live porn star, an escort can make thousands of dollars in just one brief booking. Expect to pay several times what you might a standard upscale escort in your city. And, if you’re supplying the hotel suite for the encounter, realize that she may expect more luxurious accommodations than other escorts you’re used to. Cater to her wishes for your experience to be top notch.
  11. She may not be as accommodating as other escorts. Because her time is in high demand, she can call the shots about her bookings. If she can’t provide a time slot that works with your schedule, she won’t be working you in or trying to adjust her own plans to fit with yours. She doesn’t have to jump through hoops to get you scheduled. Most clients will bend over backward to get to spend time with her, so she won’t change her policies, availabilities or services to satisfy your requests or issues. If you’re going to be late, she won’t give you extra time. If you have to cancel, she will likely still charge you.
  12. Expect to book well in advance. Porn actress escorts attempt to fill their schedules far into the future, especially when they have consistent calls from clients who want to book time. If you think you want to see an escort soon, you will have to call straight away and set up an encounter when she has first availability. For some escorts, this may be a month or more in advance. Plan ahead appropriately if you are planning to go out of town and want to book with her. Calling a night or two before when you want to see her won’t work.
  13. She doesn’t want to talk about what her life as a porn star is like. Even though it may be fascinating to you, it’s boring shop talk to her. Even though she is a public image as a porn industry representative, she doesn’t want to divulge personal details and information to you. Most escorts don’t want to talk about their private lives or other careers with clients. Porn actress escorts are no different. If you ask for interesting stories about her other profession, be happy if she shares, but don’t be disappointed when she refuses. She’s there to provide you with a good time, not to regale you with what she perceives as mundane details about her life.
  14. You may have to travel to California to meet up with her. While some escorts are willing to travel to you, most escorts who work in the porn industry will request that you come to them. As 90 percent of porn is shot in the San Fernando Valley, porn star escorts are most comfortable working from that area. Additionally, they need to be close to where they work, so they can be on set during the week to film or audition for videos. If you’re not willing to travel to her, you may not be successful in setting up an appointment.
  15. Screening will be excessive. She’s a porn star. You’re a nobody. She needs to make sure you’re not a stalker or obsessive fan who is going to harm her. (She also wants to make sure you’re not just a loon who is dangerous, too.) If you think the screening for a standard escort is tough, this will be even more in depth. If you’re not willing to divulge details that will help her accurately screen you, don’t even make the call to book an encounter in the first place.