What to do when a client does the old “bait & switch”

Typically, clients call escorts to set up encounters for themselves, explaining who they are and providing other vital information the escort uses to screen them. However, from time to time, an escort will get a call from a prospective client to set up an encounter, with an entirely different client showing up.

Why would a client bait and switch? Some expect to be turned away based on their accents, foreign origins or backgrounds. Some are such high-profile celebrities (or they think they are) they may be attempting to protect their privacy. In both scenarios they get acquaintances to call an escort for them. When a different person shows up for a session, they think it’s no big deal or attempt to sway their escorts with smooth excuses and charm.

Escorts are under no obligations to accept deceptive dates. When an escort is duped into accepting a booking from a client who really isn’t, there are several actions she can take:

  • Refuse to follow through with the encounter on the spot. Inform the client who shows up at your door (or who opens the door at the outcall) that you do not like being lied to and will not accept it as behavior you’re going to reward in a client. You may have wasted quite a bit of time researching your client in an attempt to screen him to ensure you would be safe with him. And, if your client is willing to cross boundaries by lying, what other personal boundaries of yours will he attempt to cross? It’s just not wise to follow through with a client who has lied to you from the very start about something as significant as who he is.
  • Ask lots of questions before you agree to follow through. Since you’ve already wasted your time by traveling to the outcall, you may feel that it’s a big loss if you leave the encounter. After all, you may have turned down other clients for the time, too, losing money if you don’t follow through. If you do decide to stay, ask your client many questions about who he is, why he didn’t book with you himself and his background seeing escorts. If you sense anything is off or that he’s still lying to you, bail immediately, regardless of how much you need the money. And, if it seems safe, request a kill fee for the encounter. It’s his fault that you’re not following through with the encounter; a kill fee is completely appropriate.
  • Deny the client an encounter if he doesn’t fit your client guidelines you list in your profile or on your website. If your information specifies that you don’t see foreign clients, clients who don’t speak English or clients with any other characteristics that you refuse, tell the client that you are unwilling to see him based on your personal boundaries. Tell him that even though he tried to slip through, you wouldn’t make exceptions, especially when he lied to you to get to see you.
  • Postpone the encounter till when you have properly screened this new client. The only way to ensure your safety is to consistently and thoroughly screen your clients. When a different client appears than who you expect, he could be anyone: a criminal, a sociopath or a good guy. But, you don’t know. It’s never safe to put yourself into a situation where you are alone with someone you have no information about, even a true cell phone number. If your client doesn’t understand this, he probably isn’t someone you want to be seeing anyways.
  • Don’t send mixed messages to your client by accepting the booking. By going through with the encounter, you are telling him it’s justifiable to lie to you so he can get what he wants, even though you don’t like it. It’s like telling a child not to eat candy before his dinner, and giving it to him anyways when he complains. Don’t let your client talk you into an encounter on the spot, even if he’s got a good excuse or a great cover story. Stick to your guns and your standards. Don’t let your clients lie to you.
  • Report switcheroo clients to the National Blacklist. It’s not cool for a client to deceptively book an escort, even if her really means no harm. Make other escorts aware of the client’s methods by providing information about the client(s)’ names and information provided for screening. Through your efforts, other escorts may avoid getting duped and wasting their time, too.
  • Call the police if you need help. If you are in a situation where the client becomes violent, threatening or harassing, contact law enforcement for help in getting rid of the client. You don’t deserve to be mistreated because you stick to your standards of not accepting encounters from dishonest clients.

In any of these situations where you refuse to follow through with the encounter with the client, feel free to request the entire fee he owes you or a partial payment to help compensate you for lost time, travel costs and other expenses you may have incurred as a result of the canceled appointment.