As an escort, you know the importance of protecting yourself by always requiring that your clients wear condoms. But once in a while, especially when you use them so regularly, you and your client may run into a situation where the condom breaks or slips off during intercourse. While it’s quite a disconcerting experience, the proper protocol shouldn’t be to freak out and order your client to leave ASAP. You can quickly assess the predicament and make rational decisions about what to do next.
Here are the steps you should follow:
- Stop everything! When a condom breaks, an experienced escort can usually tell, unless a client is engaged in rigorous thrusting. You may feel a pop or a slightly different sensation that indicates to you that something is not right. Ask your client to stop his course of action immediately in order to check things out. If the condom appears to be in good condition, proceed with the given activity. However, if you’re sure something isn’t right, it’s better to be safe than sorry. Ask your client to remove the questionable condom and replace it with a new one.
- Do a quick visual examination of your client for obvious signs of STDs. Most escorts do a quick analysis before becoming intimate with a client, but if a condom breaks, there’s even more reason to take a more comprehensive look. Look for a rash; red, raised bumps; unusual discharge; or anything else that just doesn’t look right. If you notice anything unusual, do not proceed with the encounter. However, if your client looks clear, encourage him to put on another condom and begin, again.
- Select a different size or variety of condom. Most condom manufacturers administer aggressive quality control measures to ensure their condoms hold up to the most energetic rolls in the hay. And, experts agree that the majority of broken condoms can be attributed to improper use or using the wrong size. Follow these general rules about condoms:
- Always use your own condoms. Never allow a client to bring in his own condoms. You don’t know what condition they will be in, their expiration dates or other important information about them. They may be a variety that doesn’t protect adequately against STDs.
- Open the condom wrapper yourself. Tearing open a condom wrapper in a passion-fueled rush can rip a condom. Open the package ahead of time, so there is no threat of puncturing or tearing the condom.
- Store your condoms in a cool, dry place. Condoms that have been exposed to extreme heat are weaker.
- Ensure that the condoms have not reached their expiration dates.
- Discourage your clients from using two condoms at once. “Double-bagging” seems like it would provide extra protection, but it really creates increased friction on the condoms, which can cause them to break more easily.
- Ensure your client uses the right size. If the client slips out of the condom, find a smaller option for him. Also, if a client complains of a condom being too tight, choose a larger size for him.
- Always leave open room at the tip. As the condom is being put on, pinch the tip slightly to allow room for ejaculate to collect during orgasm.
- Ensure that your client knows how to put on the condom correctly. When you choose to continue with your client, help him to put the condom on so you are certain of proper placement. The condom should not be unrolled inside out or fail to extend the entire length of your client’s shaft. An experienced escort can make this a sexy experience for her client, but it may be difficult to muster the patience to endure it if a condom has already broken during your encounter.
- Use lubrication on your next go. Water-based lube will decrease friction, which will lessen the chances that a condom will break. Avoid using oil-based lubricants, because they tend to break down the strength of standard condoms. In addition to decreasing the chances that a condom will tear, lube also makes intimacy even more enjoyable.
- Avoid douching after a condom breaks. Douching can affect a woman’s pH balance and amounts of healthy bacteria and yeast in the vagina. By messing with the natural chemistry, infections often result, which may actually disguise genuine symptoms of more serious STDs. Douching can also drive sperm and dangerous bacteria deeper into the vagina. It’s best to shower off with warm, soapy water, instead of inserting any water directly into the private parts.
- Slow sex down in the future. If you choose to continue the encounter, suggest to your client that the activities be slowed down and become less aggressive, as a measure to avoid future breakage. Also, consider changing positions so that you are more in control of the activity. Woman-on-top positions allow you to set the tone and speed, which may reduce chances of condom breakage.
- Consider seeking out emergency contraception. If your client ejaculated before you discovered the broken condom and if you’re not on any birth control, you will want to check into emergency contraception options. Plan B was the first available “morning-after pill” in the U.S. and can be obtained by anyone 17 years of age and older as an over-the-counter solution at most pharmacies. It must be taken within three days to prevent ovulation and fertilization. Ella is a second option and may be effective for five days after a broken condom incident. It is a wise idea to keep one of these on hand, just in case of oops moments, especially if you don’t use other forms of contraception.
- Get tested for STDs. Even if you think your client is disease free, you should get tested after any occurrence of a broken condom (whether your client ejaculated or not). Bacteria can be spread in the pre-ejaculate substance, and some STDs can be spread through skin-to-skin contact without ejaculate being present. Experts advise waiting up to two weeks to get tested for a whole battery of STDs including: gonorrhea, Chlamydia, syphilis, HIV, Hepatitis B and herpes. Be sure to follow up for your test results afterward. Additionally, if your HIV test is negative, get another test in six months to ensure a clear result. In the meanwhile, watch for signs of STDs: a rash, fever, unusual discharge and painful urination.
- Watch for signs of pregnancy. Even if you took efforts to utilize emergency contraception, they are not fully effective. Women who take Ella have a 1.8 percent of getting pregnant. Patients using Plan B have a 2.6 percent of conceiving. While these percentages are very low, anyone whose period is one week late should consider taking a home pregnancy test.
- Insist that your client undergo STD testing, just as you did. While you may be undergoing testing, yourself, require that your client get tested before he comes back to you for his next encounter. Even if the broken condom was an isolated accident, protect yourself against future accidents with him by knowing that your client is uninfected.
- Consider taking time off while you wait for your STD test results. While tests may take up to two weeks to show any infections, you will be wondering if you could be putting your clients at risk. Put your mind at ease by taking a break for the time being, if you can afford it. Or, engage only in oral pleasure or masturbatory encounters. Refrain from vaginal sexual contact with clients until you know the status of your tests.
A broken condom can wreak real havoc on your life and livelihood temporarily, but it is often just a scary reminder of how risky your profession really is. Escorts face the threat of life-changing infections and diseases every day they meet with clients. In addition to the risk of an infection (or pregnancy), escorts face immediate threats each time they venture out to see a new client who could be dangerous. When, and if, a broken condom occurs, take a moment to breathe. It’s likely not your client’s fault, so avoid placing blame. And, realize that it’s a common hazard of your job.