Phone sex 101 for escorts

Although most escorts deal exclusively with in-person encounters with clients, there are a few that, when approached, will consider engaging in phone sex sessions, too. Although phone sex lacks physical contact, it can be incredibly stimulating and fulfilling for the client who fantasizes about it. And, many men have desires to participate in it, but they don’t have the opportunity to explore the activity.

The reason comes down to one of two things, typically: either their wives or partners are not interested in getting it on over the phone or the client is too shy or reserved to ask for it. (Sometimes, a client lacks a partner of any kind, so that creates a challenge to satisfying phone sex, too.)

Another category of client who asks for phone sex is the type who is willing to explore what the world of escorts has to offer him, but he is afraid to physically engage, due to his conscience or other ethics getting in the way. Phone sex, for him, is the best of both worlds: he can stay faithful to his partner and enjoy fulfillment from an escort.

When approached about performing phone sex, there are two things you must consider:

  • How you will charge: Escorts have to figure out what your rates will be for your time on the phone. Inquire around with other escorts and professionals in the adult entertainment industry to learn about what the going rates are for phone sex. Then, tack on any additional fees you see fit, since your client is talking to a real, live escort. While you’re figuring out your rates, determine how long your bookings will be and what you will include in the encounter. If there are certain topics that are off limits, be sure to set those boundaries clearly. Similarly, establish some other ground rules, too, such as the bookings are intended for individuals only, not to be recorded and whatever else you think is fair and true to your efforts.
  • Phone signal and coverage: When you’re going to be engaging in a phone sex encounter with your client, ensure that you will have adequate signal from where you will be talking to him. It would be disappointing for your client if you and he got to a steamy point in the booking, only for the call to drop. Make certain that both of you will have good cell service during the encounter. If signal won’t be good, consider using a landline. (However, be sure to block your number from showing up on caller ID.)

Once you’ve established that you and your client will participate in a phone sex encounter, implement these 12 top elements to steamy phone sex:

  1. Start out innocently with the conversation. Don’t feel the need to rush into an audio sexual encounter immediately when you get your client on the phone. Typically, during an encounter where you physically spend time with your client, you don’t skip past the warming up period and launch into intimacy without some flirting and seduction. You shouldn’t feel the need to get down to business that quickly over the phone, either. Talk about your client’s day, encourage him to unload his worries and then innocently and sweetly ask him what he’s wearing. Or, comment that you wish you were there with him. Slowly edge into conversation that becomes more intimate so your transition into something more intimate seems natural, not forced.
  2. Plot out the general direction of the phone sex scenario before you call your client. Even though the entire conversation may go differently than you originally planned it, having some basic goals for the phone encounter can be helpful. Create some steamy statements than you can use for filler, when you just don’t know what to say. Statements might include: “I wish I could feel you touching me.” Or, “If I were there, I would kiss every inch of you right now…leading down to you know where!” Be creative with the kinds of things you might say. Recollect some of the statements you use during encounters with clients (physical ones), and adapt them to fit your needs over the phone. Even putting down some bullet points about things you want to cover during the phone sex booking can be helpful, giving you a type of roadmap. For instance, you might want to talk about undressing, masturbation, oral sex and actual intercourse. As you’re moving along during the phone booking, feel free to expand on your original outline, though. Your conversation may take on an exciting direction of its own, and it’s a shame to waste positive energy by diverting it back to your original plot ideas.
  3. Get in the right mindset for the phone booking. Escorts have to sex themselves up, in a way, prior to meeting up with clients. They psych themselves up by thinking about how happy they make their clients, counting the money they will be making and conjuring up sexy thoughts to make them horny. Even if you can’t make yourself aroused prior to your phone encounter with your client, attempt to set up an atmosphere that could lend itself to romance or passion. Turn the lights down, make sure you are alone and apt to be undisturbed. Put on some lingerie. (After all, you would be wearing lingerie if you were meeting a client in person.) Drink a glass of wine, and listen to some mood-inducing music. Allowing yourself to get in the sexy frame of mind may provide you with ample incentive to blowy our client away with out-of-this-world phone sex, creating an experience unlike any he’s ever had.
  4. Remember that non-verbal communication is as significant as verbal is. Even during physical encounters where you are with your clients, non-verbal cues are essential. Those little moans, oohs and aahs you give off provide your client with the knowledge that you’re enjoying himself, which helps accelerate his passion, too. Over the phone, these non-verbal cues are even more necessary to a successful phone sex session. Your groans, raspy breathing and sighs provide signs for your client that you are touching yourself, thinking of him, which is bound to get him highly aroused. Additionally, providing sound effects during your phone encounter is a nice way to bring him closer to you. Put the phone close to your mouth when you are sucking your finger or allow the phone to pick up other noises that are natural for the activities of your aural encounter. If you spank yourself, let your client hear the smack of your hand on your skin, for example. These sounds make the experience more real for your client, which increases his excitement levels.
  5. Whisper sweet nothings. You can also whisper non-sweet nothings. Lowering your voice to a yet-audible whisper over the phone exudes sexiness. Escorts who seduce with their voices do this all of the time, and the phone is the perfect place for you to experiment with it fully to gain an advantage. Breathy voices tend to be perceived by men to be more alluring. Often, you can whisper the types of things you want to do with your client and they automatically become erotic, even if they really aren’t significantly so to begin with. If whispering really isn’t your thing, you can soften your voice and reduce its volume in an attempt to increase its appeal to your mobile client.
  6. Exaggerate your words. By emphasizing your words excessively, you put an automatic sexual spin on what you say. Stress certain words (especially sexual ones) as you say them, and considering elongating them at the same time. This obvious over-exaggeration of the words creates a sexual rhythm and themes that your client will enjoy throughout the entire session. Even if you feel a bit ridiculous, this method really works. In order to get just the right degree of emphasis, record yourself prior to talking to clients. Practice until it sounds just right.
  7. Get graphic with your client. The real, underlying secret to successful phone sex is providing lots of details. Men are typically visual creatures, and they need to be painted a mental picture in order to achieve the levels of sexual satisfaction that are required from a phone sex encounter. As a result, you must provide a play-by-play description that includes everything you want to do to him (or vice versa) with every touch, feeling and experience involved. Do a walk-through of the scenario you are imagining in your mind in order to create a fantasy for him. Feel free to talk freely about body parts, the sounds they make, how they feel and your desires about them. Be specific. Don’t allude to his “private parts.” Use the words, “cock,” “penis,” “dick” and “balls.” Explain yourself fully, using explicit terms that can’t be misunderstood or confused. If you want to tell him you would love to give him a blow job, say, “I want to suck your cock.” Don’t beat around the bush….be explicit.
  8. Get kinky with your client. Now is your client’s opportunity to explore any pleasures that he desires with you that are normally restricted due to your personal boundaries. If you typically prohibit anal sex, S&M or water sports, he can explore them over the phone with you, unless you have set boundaries that exclude these things, too, for phone encounters. The entire situation is dreamed up. It’s a fantasy and your client’s imagination can run wild. (Yours can, too, for that matter.) Talk about x-rated activities and discuss the things you want to do that are usually off of the table. Now is the time to talk dirty and exhibit a different side of you than clients normally see during an encounter.
  9. Encourage your client to touch himself. Although you aren’t there to physically make contact with him, he can still be pleasured by the human touch…it will just be his own. Even though the passion often comes from the aural sensations during phone sex, other satisfaction and fulfillment can be achieved through physical stimulation and masturbation. Tell your client to touch himself, how to do it and why you wish you were there to do it for him. Allow him to entice you to touch yourself, pleasuring yourself in ways that only you know how to do. As he touches himself, persuade him to tell you how it feels. He may get even more turned on by talking about it as he’s doing it, feeling much more like you’re right there with him. The physical aspect of phone sex is essential to a fulfilling session. It provides that last little bit that can put a client right over the top at a climaxing moment.
  10. Ask your client questions. During an in-person encounter, many escorts may ask a client what he wants to do or how he wants to be touched. Since a phone conversation lacks visible cues to help you direct the scenario, it’s necessary to engage your client by getting him to tell you what he wants from you. Another way to ensure a steamy phone session is to ask your client if he’s ready to touch you…or more. Ask him if he were with you, what would he do. Encourage him to share his thoughts and how he’d like to act in your presence. Persuade him to share what he’d like to do to your body…and how he’d like to proceed with several sexual activities. At several intervals during the encounter, ask him if he’s touching himself or what he’s thinking about. Continue to pick his brain about his passions, as it can help lead you to what will really get him aroused and finish him off.
  11. Take your cues from him. If your client has become suddenly silent, ask him what’s wrong. Typically, silence during a phone sex session means that your client is becoming bored or disengaged. Take the hint that you need to change things up so he is still involved. Additionally, if he’s moaning and groaning, it may mean that he’s fairly close to climaxing. Don’t be afraid to ask him if he’s close to finishing. Pay attention to his breathing. If he’s breathing shallowly or in quick breaths, he is probably getting pretty excited by your encounter. These cues you get from him are often enough to steer the entire encounter in such a way that your client is pleased. But, also pay attention to the things he says. Do they coincide with the direction you are taking the conversation? If they don’t, consider allowing him to take the lead. He may have some ideas of his own that will make the experience more pleasurable for him. And, if he is simply agreeing with everything you are saying, it’s a sure sign you’re doing it right.
  12. Let him direct the experience. Some clients have ideas that they’ve fantasized about for a long time. And, just like during a physical encounter, they want the opportunity to explore them with you as they please, unhindered by your interruptions or distractions. Allow him to tell you what he wants and play the submissive to his dominant phone role. And, if he’s not into leading the direction of the call entirely, ask him what he hopes to accomplish. Maybe he wants to role play a specific scenario over the phone and allow it to turn sexual. Or, maybe he has some particular act he wants to explore during the phone sex encounter. Even though you’re not physically spending time with him as his escort, you are acting as one over the phone. Allow him to tell you what he wants, so that he is pleased at the completion of your encounter with him. Always make sure that he gets what he wants, and the only way to be sure is to ask him.

While phone sex isn’t a typical provision for escorts, there is nothing saying that it can’t work for you and your client. Keep your mind open and be flexible with the activities your clients request. You never know, it might be really fun!