Company girl: Escorting in business

The corporate world has changed radically in the last forty years. If you think about the role of women in Mad Men and compare it to the serious positions of today’s female CEOs and law firm partners the progress women have made has been extraordinary. At the same time, while women’s roles have changed, men’s desires and needs have not. What has changed, however, is a culture in which a pretty girl working in the steno pool will be recruited to help land the big client. Way too risky: mixing work and pleasure is a pretty sure fire path to a sexual harassment suit.

Which does not change the fact that many a contract can be landed by a friendly feminine touch. Which led us to Karen.

“I used to be an independent escort.” Karen told us on Skype, “Now I am a company girl.” Continue reading

Escorting: It’s complicated

Many escorts have a straight forward, matter of fact, attitude towards the business. They understand exactly what they are doing and are clear about the pleasures of making good money from escorting. Other girls have a more complex relationship between their lives and escorting.

We got a very nice note from Julia – not her real name – who seems to have taken an almost entirely unique approach to the complications escorting creates in a busy life.

We reached out to Julia on Skype and had a marvelous conversation, but before we get to Julia’s story, here’s the note in full. Continue reading

Escorting a month at a time

An escort friend of ours suggested we get in touch with a friend of hers. “Elise has a totally sweet deal” she told us giving us Elise’s contact details. So we phoned. And emailed. And Skyped. And then we gave up because the one thing escorts are supposed to be is easy to contact. Continue reading

Escorts and the role play

Escorts are often asked by their clients to do a bit of role play. Whether it is the naughty cheerleader or the police woman who will not take no for an answer, escorts can often make excellent money simply by gratifying the slightly unusual desires of their clients.

However, we wondered if there were not escorts who went a bit beyond the sex shop costumes and really took seriously the fantasy requests of their clients. While there were dozens of girls who offered “role play” along with the GFE and the pleasures of pampering, we had to really look to find a girl who took escorting role play to the next level.

We reached out to Martine on the basis of a really rather clever ad. Continue reading

Casual escorting done right

There are lots of ways for a girl to escort. Whether she operates her escorting business as an independent or works through an agency, every girl will run her escorting life according to her own priorities.

For some escorts it is all about making the most money fast. For others, keeping a balance between escorting and the rest of their lives takes priority. But we were amused to see an escort ad which took balance to an extreme. Continue reading

Escort by design

When you read about escorting there are lots of stories of girls who have become escorts because they have “had to”. The “had to escort” reasons really all come down to one thing: money. Or, more exactly, the absence of money. This is often referred to as “survival sex work” and is a situation very much to be avoided.

The other side of that coin is what I call “escorting by design”. Here a woman makes a conscious and un-coerced choice to escort. Escorting by design lets a woman enter the escorting market in her own way and at her own pace. Continue reading

Bingo! Escorting the big wins

A few weeks ago a friend of mine made what can only be described as a big score. Big as in the sale of part of his company for millions of dollars, many millions of dollars, in cash. I saw him a couple of weeks after the big win and, perhaps naively, asked where he had been. In his best Austin Powers voice he announced, “Vegas, Baby, Vegas!” Continue reading

How to escort the powers that be

Cosmopolitan Magazine once ran a piece on how primary season in the US affects escort’s business in primary states. Big surprise, more clients.

Iowa escorts enjoyed the traffic spike last week too. Rachel*, 38, a Des Moines-based escort, said she woke up each morning last week with “five or six” calls from numbers she didn’t know — a rarity in a state not known for its tourism. “All week, I had excessive calls all the way up until 5 o’clock in the morning, because of the caucuses,” she said. Another Iowa escort named Kylie*, 31, said she noticed the same spike in calls from guys who were not her regulars. They were there for the caucuses, she said, and they were looking for company. Continue reading

Random acts of escorting

We got a note a few weeks ago from a girl in, of all places, Pittsburgh.

Her note directed us to a website unlike any escorting site we’d ever seen. Pictures, hundreds of pictures, of bars, of restaurants, vintage clothing stores, some high fashion boutiques and, interspersed, shots of a girl. It was hard to tell if it was the same girl from shot to shot.

The words were equally ambiguous. Quotations for the most part. The effect was like a neighbourhood scrapbook of a place we’d never been featuring glimpses of a girl we never saw in full. Of course we were intrigued. Of course we got in touch. Continue reading