What judgment calls do escort have to make?

Even though you may establish policies and procedures for nearly every situation that you can think of that might occur, there will always be circumstances that you aren’t able to predict. The escort industry leaves you dealing one-on-one with clients, who are entirely unreliable. Whatever you are prepared to handle, won’t. And, what you least expect will always occur. It’s just the nature of the business. Due to this volatile nature of things, you have to be prepared to make on-the-fly judgment calls about various issues related to bookings, clients and the escort services you provide. These considerations may help you make good choices as you are met with unexpected experiences:

  1. Refunds: Regardless of the quality of encounters you offer to clients, sometime you will receive a request for a refund. This client may claim that you didn’t meet his expectations, provide services implied or a number of other things. There may be a situation where he is called away or the booking must be cut short — due to circumstances that are beyond your (or his) control. The client may expect a refund for the encounter, because he did not receive the full amount of time promised. And, it’s been known to happen that a client is obnoxious, rude or insulting to the point that you ask him to leave and cut the booking short purposefully. Often, a client will demand his contribution back. How you handle these situations is entirely up to you. But, keep in mind that if you feel you did your best with a client and/or the booking was shortened due to issues unrelated to you, you should never feel obligated to offer a refund.
  2. Rescheduling a booking: Things happen. Schedules get over booked. Emergencies happen. Unforeseen situations arise that may cause either you or your client to have to miss a booking… sometimes with little advance notice. If it’s a rare occurrence with your clients, you should immediately offer to reschedule the encounter. However, if it becomes habitual on the part of a client, you should reconsider whether you want to reserve his time slot, again, only to be stood up… with no income to show for your working time. Clients fail to realize, much of the time, that when they don’t show up for an encounter, it’s like money down the drain for an escort. If you hadn’t set aside that time for your absent client, you might have been able to schedule an encounter for that period with a client who would actually show up (and pay your rate).
  3. Discounts: In some respects, you can’t blame a client for trying to get the cheapest rate possible. It’s kind of the American way, aiding capitalism and all of that. We haggle with car dealers, contractors and other professionals to get the best deal on whatever it is that we’re trying to purchase. When a client attempts to bargain you down, he may not be intending to insult your worth. However, many clients who attempt to get a discount do imply that they think you are not as valuable as you think you are. They may even compare you to other escorts and encourage you to lower your rate accordingly. You shouldn’t let clients do this to you. You have calculated carefully how much your expenses are and what kind of an income you need to make. Don’t allow a client to talk you down beyond a value that you feel is appropriate. Some clients will offer to pay your rate in full, but may ask for a discount if he becomes a loyal, regular admirer. Do the math: if what’s he’s offering averages out to more than he would be paying you if you didn’t offer him a discount, due to more frequent visits, etc., it might be a good time to consider his offer.
  4. Late arrivals: It’s a common problem for escorts. Clients who run late still want to proceed with the encounter, just as if they had arrived on time. For instance, if a booking was supposed to start at 3 p.m., and a client arrives at 3:20, he may think that he still gets his full hour, despite being 20 minutes tardy. Some escorts may go forward with the encounter and allow the full hour, especially if the client hasn’t been a problem like that before. But, if you’ve got other clients after or other obligations to get to, it may not be possible. Plus, it sends a message to your client that he may show up at anytime and still expect his full time. You have to make that judgment call with your client. However, you have to keep in mind that it may set a precedent for future behavior. Always take into account why the client was late and your activities that follow the booking.
  5. Second chances: Everyone deserves a second chance, right? Well, most of the time. But, you have the right to decree that no client receives a second chance from you. Or, you can elect to give third, fourth and fifth chances. It’s up to you. But, you should always determine whether you’re willing to allow a client a second chance based on his initial offense. He called you a two-bit hooker and spit in your face: no second chance. Or, he made fun of your incall decor: second chance granted. The level of severity of what your client did to get banned initially should really weigh in on whether you want to try making amends with him or not. Violence, verbal abuse, lies or actions that are detrimental to your business or privacy are grounds for no second chance ever again. However, if you and your client simply got off on the wrong foot or had a miscommunication, it’s possible that a second chance could repair things and create a new friendship.
  6. Screening red flags: Escorts have to listen to their intuitions when they decide to take on a new client, especially if the screening process is a bit “iffy.” Certain signs indicate that a client is either a risk or simply lying to you. Signs might include confusing information available online, details that don’t match up with what he’s told you or finding nothing at all out about a client. Additionally, any criminal records or other negative media may be reasons to deny an encounter. However, sometimes, escorts listen to their guts, instead of the red flags, because of a connection made while communicating or something else they may know about a client, such as a good reference from another escort. Nobody’s screening process is completely foolproof. Bad guys slip through the gaps, just as nice guys may be turned down. Ultimately, the screening process only guides you in making the decision to accept a new client. Use your best judgment beyond that.
  7. Granting extra time: If you’re really enjoying a booking and a client is pleasant to be with, it may be a no-brainer to extend an encounter by 20 or 30 minutes. But, some clients try to milk the clock and get as much “free” time from you as they can. They linger, piddle while getting dressed, take too long in the shower or seem to ignore the time. Some may just flat out ask for extra time, instead of trying to sneak it in. If you feel it won’t hurt anything and isn’t going to become a repeated problem with a client, go for it. Grant the extra time. But, if you do, be prepared for your client to expect an extension every time. Use caution as you do these favors and encourage your clients to earn them. Some escorts will allow extra time, when tipped appropriately. Others never give more minutes than originally agreed upon. Decide, based on the situation and how much you like your clients, whether extra time is allowable.
  8. Boundary pushing: Clients who deliberately push you beyond your limitations should be stopped and banned from future encounters. But, you don’t always know when a client is intentional with his actions, simply gets caught up in the moment or was just generally ignorant to your rules. Once in awhile, a client meant absolutely no harm by trying to get more than you usually offer. These clients need gentle reminders about your rules and boundaries. Other clients, though, who think they can persuade you to abandon your policies are not to be trusted. They may go to extremes to get you to do what they want. It’s ultimately your call to limit your contact with them or give them additional opportunities. However, be clear that if they do it once, they will likely do it again. Don’t think that they will change their ways.
  9. Prohibited service requests: Perhaps, there are specific services that you do not allow. Maybe you don’t engage in anal intercourse or deep French kissing. Whatever it is that you DON’T do, you are probably very clear that it’s not part of your repertoire as you explain your services in your profile. However, most clients don’t read the fine print, so to speak. They look at your pictures, communicate with you briefly and set up a booking. They may or may not know what services you specialize in or won’t be party to. Because they don’t pay attention, they will likely ask you to do things you don’t want to do. When you remind them that you don’t do those acts, they may be mad or disappointed. Some may even want to end the encounter or demand their money back. Other times, you may have a loyal client who really, really wants to engage in a certain fantasy that is on your no-no list. It’s up to you whether you should make an exception or not.
  10. Inexperienced at services: Even though you are VERY good at what you do, there may be times that your clients want to take a foray into a genre of services that you are unfamiliar with. Your inexperience may be alluring to them, so they are desirous of the activities even more with you. Or, they may feel like they can trust you more than anyone else, thus emboldening them enough to request something new from you and the encounters you offer. Depending on what the service is and whether it’s something that you find interesting, you may or may not want to venture into unexplored territory. For instance, if your client wants to explore the world of sub/dom activities, you may be able to offer a subdued experience that will provide him with an idea of what it actually entails. Many escorts will delve into other services, to an extent, to give their clients a taste of a new niche. However, unless they are truly interested in the niche, themselves, many escorts will refer their clients on to escorts who deliver these kinds of services exclusively. But, it’s really your judgment call. If you’re comfortable with the new thing, maybe you will start offering it regularly.
  11. Extended bookings: Many clients will ask for overnight or extended bookings that last several days and nights. While these are a virtual gold mine, usually, they are incredibly taxing and a heck of a lot of work. You’re required to be “on” the whole time and at your client’s beck and call. If it’s a new client, you may need to be on guard for the span of the booking so as to protect your personal safety and belongings. Some escorts just flat-out refuse these kinds of bookings. And, if they accept them, they charge premium rates for them, because they are too exhausted afterward to book encounters with other clients for a few days. Also — if you choose to accept these kinds of extended visits, you should consider making some kind of rules about personal time and limits for full-on personal contact.
  12. Groups: Some clients have fantasies about getting it on with you and their wife/partner at the same time. Others want two or more escorts. Some want to engage in orgy-like fantasies. You should know ahead of time what you’re willing to get involved in and under what conditions. When a client asks about this, you need to have a solid answer that doesn’t imply you’re unsure. If you’re ok with getting it on with another escort and your client, say so. But, if you’re uncomfortable with situations involving more than just you and your one client, make that position be known.
  13. Alternative payment arrangements: Some clients won’t always want to pay you in cash. Sometimes, a client will offer jewelry, gift cards, trips or other perks that they think are good replacements for cash. They don’t realize that you’re not in this business for the extras. You’re in it to make money to pay your bills. You can’t very well pay your electric bill with a designer fragrance or pair of shoes, despite how much you like them. Other times, clients may ask if they can use a credit card to pay you. Or, if you would accept a bulk payment for several encounters. And, it’s possible that you might even be offered a sugar daddy type of arrangement. Before situations arise, consider the scenarios in your head so you have thought out the pros and cons of each type of arrangement.
  14. Know that everything is relative: Even if you settle on certain guidelines that you will use to make judgment calls in certain scenarios, realize that nothing is ever as you expect it to be entirely. Things always change that may alter the way you think about situations. There are no right and wrong answers — make decisions based on what feels right today and what you think will create the most positive impact on your business in the future.

Things you never considered about porn star escorts

You’ve seen her in films and lusted after her through your online porn portals, but you never thought you’d ever actually have the chance to hook up with your favorite porn star in person. Well, believe it or not, it’s becoming increasingly more common for porn stars to do double duty as personal escorts. But, before you move forward with any misconceived ideas, be aware that things are not always as you might expect for them to be with a porn star escort. Come to these realizations before attempting to finagle a booking with her: Continue reading

11 ways you spook escorts without meaning to

Despite your best efforts, your inexperience may lead you to cause escorts to distrust you from the very start. Clients often fail to realize that their hesitation or quirky behavior throw red flags up to escorts who are always on the look-out for telltale behavior that a client could be a bad risk. When their safety is at stake, who can blame them for paying close attention to client actions that tip them off to potential hazards down the road? Continue reading

A glimpse into the shadows: An insider’s adventures in the world of escorts, episode 3

I was struggling to focus on the episode of Friends. Ross’ shrill voice and the overly perky laugh track would bring me out of my thoughts every so often but for the most part I was in a daze. I was supposed to be getting ready for work at my job as a waitress but I had been dawdling. The restaurant I worked for was a good thirty minutes away by car and closer to an hour when I was forced to use the bus.

by Sarah Brooke

Previous episodes of A glimpse into the shadows: An insider’s adventures in the world of escorts:

My car was in the shop again, no surprise there, but this time I actually had the money to pay for the repairs and not worry if I would still be able to pay rent this month. I was feeling distinctly unmotivated to get up, get dressed, and get to work in part thanks to the fact that I didn’t get to bed until 4am last night but also because I was making more in a week working for Sophie than I made in an entire month at my real job. The prospect of an hour long bus ride was not exactly thrilling either and when I worked in the cost of a cab back home at 2am, I decided to call in sick and spend my night advertising for Sophie instead. She had the Carmen cell phone so I didn’t have to worry about fielding calls from potential clients which was good because it wasn’t even noon yet and I was exhausted after our midnight adventure.

Last night I had two clients call at 12:30am and 1:20am respectively. Saturday nights are the worst for middle of the night drunk and demanding calls. Most of the men who call after hours are slurring their words and last night was no different. I went into my speech with both of them, the words having been said so many times already that they just flow out without much thought, even in the early hours of the morning.

“Sorry hun, I don’t do after hours calls on such short notice. Next time call me the day before and hopefully I can fit you in!”

The first client wouldn’t let me off that easily, he proceeded to demand phone sex, swearing that he would send money via bank transfer after we were done. I politely but firmly told him that I don’t do such things but finally when he wouldn’t accept that I wasn’t going to indulge him, I just hung up. I added his name and phone number to my “SOPHIE: DO NOT BANG” list which was growing in number every week. I checked my records of her appointments and saw that she had not seen this gentleman before despite his claims that he was a semi-regular client. I knew his name didn’t ring a bell. He was just a lonely drunk man looking for some free phone sex on an otherwise uneventful Saturday night. It wasn’t the first time a caller had tried to persuade me into phone sex and it wouldn’t be the last. They usually say that they want to make sure you are an open minded girl before they make an appointment, that they want to see if you can really talk dirty. I don’t know if phone sex is particularly expensive but with the amount of men calling and trying to get escorts to talk dirty to them it must be. I scribbled his phone number and first name onto a hot pink Post It note and stuck it to my “DO NOT ACCEPT CALLS FROM” board. I had learned enough working for Sophie to know that it was better to just cut our losses with men like that and not take calls from them at all.

When the phone rang again at 1:20am I had just managed to fall back asleep. I fumbled around struggling to find the phone, the bright display lights only serving to blind me rather than guide me. I picked up just before the call went to voice mail. His name was Jeff and he had a deep but soothing voice. From the moment I picked up the phone he was charming. His voice sounded like he had been raised somewhere in the Southern U.S but time away had dampened his southern twang. I gave him the speech, told him that I was really sorry but it was too late and I was already in bed. He was kind and understanding. He said he had found my ad online and had been thinking of contacting me for awhile now but had lacked the nerve. He said he had never been with an escort before but that Carmen was the name of his first girl friend and he was drawn to me because of that. I reiterated that it was too late and that I’d be happy to do after hours calls with at least a days notice ahead of time. He said he understood and asked if $1000 was enough to cover any inconvenience meeting him would cause me. My droopy eyes lit up. $1000. My cut for booking an appointment was 20% and with my car in the shop, I was very interested in that commission. I knew I had to do something I hadn’t done before and call Sophie in the middle of the night. She didn’t pick up at all the first time I called and only picked up on the last ring the second time.

“What?” Her voice sounding just as groggy and out of it as I had expected.

“Soph, get up. You have a date.”

“Sarah there is no fucking way. What time is it?”

“1:30am.”

“Just tell the guy no. Even after hours rates aren’t going to be enough to force me to get out of bed.”

“Sophie, he said he will pay $1000.” There is a silence on the phone as she contemplates the situation. I hear her draw a big breath.

“Fine, come get me in 30 minutes. Get his address and tell him I’ll be there in a little under an hour.”

“My car is in the shop, remember.” I bite my lip, a little bit worried seeing as one of my jobs is to drive her to appointments whenever possible.

“I’m not going there alone at this time of night. You get a cab from your place and text me when you’re here. I’ll run down.” She hangs up and I dash to the bathroom to wash my face and throw some clothes on, calling the cab company while I wrestle my way into a freshly bought halter dress.

I call Jeff and explain that I’ll be there in an hour. He sounds happy and I pray that this works out because if it doesn’t I will be on Sophie’s shit list. The girl loves her sleep. I get his last name and quickly check Google for his info. I end up finding his Facebook profile and confirm that he is who he says he is.

Within twenty minutes the cab arrives and we head to Sophie’s. She’s waiting outside already, dressed in the exact same halter dress as me and when she slides in next to me we both start laughing.

“I almost bought it in blue but something drew me to the yellow.” she smiles and leans back, handing me her makeup pouch.

“Great minds think alike.” I grab some blush and start swiping it across her cheeks. The cab driver glances back at us wearily. He takes in our matching dresses, sighs, and turns his attention back to the road.

Within ten minutes we are at Jeff’s apartment and Sophie has been transformed into Carmen. I cap the mascara and throw it into her makeup pouch.

“I won’t be needing that, can you hold it for me?” She takes a look at herself in the rear view mirror and fixes a tiny spot of lipstick that has strayed from her lip line.

“Thank you for the ride. Would you be able to pick us up in an hour?” She hands him the cab fare plus an extra $20.

“Change?” he asks.

“No, thank you, keep it.”

“Okay, I will be back in an hour.” he doesn’t say another word and we file out of the cab. There is a McDonald’s just down the street and I tell her I will be there if she needs me. I hand her the phone and she texts Jeff to let him know she is here. I hug her goodbye and head to the McDonald’s to spend some quality time with a book.

An hour and five minutes later my phone alarm goes off and I can see from my vantage point that the cab is now parked outside of the apartment buildings, waiting for us. It’s not like Sophie to be late so I start frantically calling first her cell phone and then Carmen’s phone. No answer. I text her “Don’t do this to me! If you don’t answer I am calling the cops because I will assume you have been murdered.” Within a minute she has replied. Meet me out front.

I get there first and I stop to tell the cab driver that we are almost ready to go. He looks tired and I make a mental note to tip him another $20.

“Sarah!” I turn around to see Sophie beaming, smiling from ear to ear.

“What?”

“Sarah, he gave me an extra $1000 and wants me to spend the night.” I guess I’d be beaming too if I had just made nearly $2000 for a few hours work.

“Okay… that is pretty awesome but do you feel comfortable with this?” I know this is her first overnight, something she has not agreed to do before now. She says she can’t stomach the idea of waking up next to a stranger in the morning. It’s funny what you consider strange when working as an escort. Actual sex with a stranger, not so weird, but spending the night with one? No way.

“He’s such a sweetheart. We really get along and when I said I had to go he pulled out a huge wad of cash and asked me how much it would cost for me to stay and have breakfast with him in the morning.”

“That sounds great. I’m glad it’s going well. I should head home though, are you sure you are going to be okay?” I have some apprehension about leaving her with someone overnight but I also trust her instincts.

“Absolutely! I’m having fun.” She starts to count out $400 and hands it to me. “Thank you, I know waiting around for me at 2 in the morning is not exactly your idea of a fun Saturday night.” She counts out another $100 and hands it to me. “This is for the cab ride home.” She gives me a big hug and before heading back to the apartment building she grabs her makeup pouch. “I’ll definitely be needing this in the morning.”

On the cab ride home I start to doze. Some time later the driver wakes me up with a loud “HMMPH” and I see that I am home. I thank him profusely and hand him a hundred dollar bill. The fare comes to $19.75 and as he’s counting out my change I tell him to keep it. He stares at the money for awhile while I slip out of the car. Before I have the chance to shut the door and head to my apartment he turns around with a business card in hand.

“Here. My names Ahmed. Next time you girls go out this late at night, you call me. Don’t call the cab company, you call me directly. You have to be safe in your line of work.” I grab the business card and don’t bother correcting him. Two identically dressed women going to an apartment building in the wee hours of the morning, it’s not insane to think we are both prostitutes. I debate telling him that I’m actually the muscle of this operation but I just thank him and shut the door behind me. I sleep with my cell phone right next to my head, waiting for the text telling me that Sophie is back home and safe.

The story continues

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It may not be often that another escort will call you seeking a reference for a prospective client, but when it happens, you should know how to respond. Most escorts carefully screen their clients, which typically produces enough information they can use to make their decisions about whether a client is a reliable risk or not. However, sometimes a client comes along who offers a reference from a fellow escort. Continue reading

11 Don’ts of screening a client

As an escort, you know the importance of screening your clients ahead of time. Properly screening clients keeps you safe, helps avoid pranksters and enables you to rule out any suspicious characters who may be law enforcement officials. While there is a long list of “dos” when you research your clients and verify their identities, there are also several “don’ts” you should take into account, too. Continue reading