13 ways for escorts to stay positive in a negative world

Not only does the gloom and doom in the news cast negative light in the world, but the people you encounter may bring you down with their pessimistic and, generally, bad attitudes. Working in the adult industry as an entertainment provider, you battle the stigma daily that suggests you are “dirty”, unintelligent, under the influence, or immoral. It’s a tough world to live in, but you don’t have to let it get to you. There are many ways you can stay positive in an oppressively negative world. Consider these methods of choosing your outlook:

  1. Limit the negative people in your life: While it may be impossible to stay away from grumpy people as you work your way through the day, it is conceivable to reduce the negative Nancies you purposefully encounter. As you accept clients for gigs, don’t book those who always have bad attitudes, gripe incessantly about their lives or criticize you for the things you do or don’t do. If you work in a club and the other dancers or the manager cast a shadow on your happiness, think about moving to a different club. Eliminating unnecessary drama and pessimism from your world can make a huge difference in the way that you perceive your life. When you’re not constantly being reminded by others how bad you or they have it, it’s a lot easier to see the silver lining and appreciate what you have got. When it’s not possible to completely remove negative people in your life, do what you can to reduce the amount of time you spend with them. It will make a huge difference in your outlook.
  2. Avoid taking things personally: When customers start complaining and griping about what you did (or didn’t do) for them, realize that they may just be the negative type. Often, customers will direct their frustrations at an adult services provider, because they don’t have anyone else to take them out on. They use you as a doormat for their anger and fears. While it’s hard to not take their comments and critiques personally, it’s in your best interest to just let them go. Don’t let them get you down or diminish your confidence. Of course, some clients will offer honest feedback. But, they aren’t the ones criticizing about every other thing in their world, either. Additionally, people in your life will make snide comments about you or what you do. They may be jealous, judgmental or just mean. Allowing what they say to permeate your good mood is easy to do — but resist the initial reaction of doing that.
  3. Do what you love: It’s much easier to be happy when you make time for things you love to do. Working a lot as an adult entertainment services provider may not leave you with a lot of time for hobbies, but, it’s essential to take a break, even for a bit, to do enjoyable tasks. Music and art are great ways to relieve stress. Gardening and outdoor activities reduce negativity. Or, your hobbies may be more unique. Even if you don’t think you have the room in your schedule to devote time to something that you love to do, find a way to incorporate it into your services that you provide clients. If you’re a dancer, use music that speaks to you. If you’re an escort, decorate your incall with art or items that you love. Finding a way to engulf your life with activities or things you appreciate will help drown out the negative noise all around you.
  4. Practice positive self esteem: Even when times seem the worst and it feels like the world is against you, avoid letting it get you down. Build on the confidence you feel when you are with a client who adores you. Draw from the inner spark you had as a child. Be self assured that you have what it takes to make it through any situation. Consistently review your positive traits and attributes. Perhaps, you are proud of your appearance or your intellect. Maybe, you are good at making people laugh. Or, you’re a great dancer, good communicator or generous soul. Whatever it is, take stock in the things you like about yourself on a daily basis. If you can’t find anything you like, take analysis and come up with aspects that are positive. Ask your friends and family members to share their favorite things about you. Build on this to build good self esteem that will carry you through negative experiences and get people who attempt to drag you down.
  5. Disconnect to recharge: Sometimes, you just need to detach from the rest of the world to take a break. Depending on your situation, you may need to separate yourself for only a few minutes or several days. Put your phone down, don’t worry about messages, forget your troubles and relax. Don’t focus on others’ needs when you’re trying to refresh yourself. Take the moments and soak them up, avoiding any other stress that may attempt to enter your life. If you’ve encountered an extremely nasty and negative customer, you may need to take a break before meeting up with your next one. If you don’t ever take the time to recharge, you may allow that negativity to follow you and carry over to your next customer. Or, you may take it home with you and spread it around to your friends or family members. Even though taking just a few moments to cut yourself free from the negativity may not fully put you in the best frame of mind, it helps clear your thoughts and allow room for positive feelings.
  6. Laugh: Laughter not only lightens your mood, but it also has a lot of health benefits that can help you fight off negativity in your world. It triggers your body to release endorphin, the natural feel-good chemical. It can create an overall sense of well-being. And, it just feels good. Health wise, it can stimulate your immune system. But, it is also a way of tricking yourself into being in a better mood. The old saying “It’s better to laugh than to cry” is a great way to look at it. If you’re always looking for a way to see the positive in a situation, rather than the negative, by finding something humorous, you’re going to beat half the battle right there. Humor in your life distracts from the sad or negative situations, and it gives you something to look forward to in every experience. When you can laugh at your world and yourself, you will see things in a much rosier light.
  7. Make a conscious effort to be happy: Learning to see your world in a positive light is the key to avoiding the negative feelings that easily overcome you. You may discover that it takes a true effort to do it, in the beginning. It may not come naturally, if you’re not normally an optimist. But, it’s just like every day you get to make the choice to be happy. You choose to be grateful about your life. You see your glass as half full. And, you look for the silver lining. It’s sometimes easier to take life’s lemonades and view them as something sour. But, with a positive spin on things, your view may take on a much happier perspective. Life is negative enough, but when you elect to feel blessed, express gratitude and spread love, it’s a much nicer place. You may have to remind yourself to act in a way that demonstrates your better attitude. And, it may be tough on some days. But, the more you do it, the easier and more natural it will become.
  8. Exercise out the negative: Those feel-good chemicals discussed earlier that are produced by laughter are also results of exercise. Getting your sweat on through a good workout can cause your body to produce enough endorphins that your mood will be automatically elevated. After vigorous activity, you will naturally feel happier. The more you do this, the more your body will come to appreciate the release of endorphins. Additionally, exercise is a great way to get rid of stress. Working out hard can distract you from the negatives in your life, allowing you to focus on the positives. And, exercising may give you a lot of confidence. This empowers you in a couple of ways: 1) You’re able to shrug off those criticisms and complaints that you may have taken personally before, due to the smoking hot body you develop from exercise; and, 2) When you’re strong and fit, you have confidence to overcome mean people in your world.
  9. Change your circumstances: If your world seems terribly negative, it may be time to change your life in ways that will omit these bad experiences from your life. If you have a significant other who is abusive in his words or actions, get rid of him. Family members who constantly judge you should be cut loose. If you live in a bad neighborhood, save money so that you can move. Analyze what’s bad about your life and determine a way to get rid of that negativity. Look for positive changes that can enhance your situation. If you don’t want to cut people out of your life, figure out a way to limit your time around them to only positive encounters. If you’re unhappy about a situation, take control over it and change it for the better. Life is not out of your ability to make adjustments to make it more positive.
  10. Increase your friends and family time: Sometimes, all it takes to feel happier about your world is more time with the people you love. Family time may take your mind off of all the bad experiences you’ve had as an adult services provider or, at least, detract from them. It helps you focus on the positive and realize that good things encompass your world, instead of only bad ones. Time with your friends builds up your self-esteem, makes you laugh and helps you create satisfaction with your life. If you don’t ever make time for the people you love, you are limiting the acceptance and pleasure you will find among those you surround yourself with. Keeping your friends and family members in a tight circle around you helps shield you from a world full of criticism, unhappiness and general negativity.
  11. Seek out positive news and happiness: Instead of immersing yourself with the news non-stop, subscribe to happier news feeds that focus on heart-warming stories. Much of the media focuses on negative impacts and traumatic experiences that are emotion wrenching. Avoid this onslaught of bad news by limiting your intake of it. And, if your friends or family members (or clients) insist on sharing bad news with you, find a way to counter it with more positive information. Sometimes, though, it’s impossible to avoid the sad news of the world. But, when this happens, be sure to find other outlets that will deliver good stories about the bad experiences of the world, such as amazing humanitarian efforts or miraculous rescues.
  12. Don’t dwell on the negative: It’s pretty easy to become obsessed with the negative in your life. After all, it’s pretty significant and may influence your daily world pretty heavily. But, instead of allowing it to consume you, try to shrug it off. Or, don’t allow it to drive your emotions, actions and world, generally. Search for a way to factor in other variables of your life, as you focus on how to change the bad things. For instance, it could be very easy to dwell on the fact that your car is broke down. But, focus on how you’re going to earn money to fix it and how lucky you are to have a vehicle, in the first place. Get past the negative so you can plan a way to fix your problems.
  13. Base it on your perspective: If you’re always expecting bad things to happen, they will. But, if you can find a way to look past the negative and see the positive, you won’t notice the disappointments in your life so much. They won’t have nearly the same impact on you, if you can focus on happier things in your world. Sometimes, it’s easy to let the little things pile up and get to you, just as though they were terribly significant issues. Learn to not “sweat the small stuff” and put things into perspective. Spilling your coffee all over your favorite outfit is a bummer, but not a life-altering event. Missing a cab when you were in a hurry is a bad deal, but not one that will hurt you or cause major failure in your life. Spraining your ankle on your way to see a client is unfortunate, but not nearly as bad as breaking it. Discover methods to put your life occurrences into perspective and it’s much easier to deal with the negative world around you.