What makes adult entertainment a sound career choice?

If you’re new to the industry, it’s probably pretty easy to come up with a dozen reasons for why being an adult entertainment service provider is a bad career choice. However, there are immeasurable benefits associated with the job, too – you just have to think out of the box and get rid of the negative self talk. Consider the positive changes the career can bring to your life, before you rule it out as a impossibility. Here are just a few of the advantages:

  1. The pay: Many adult entertainers make hundreds (or thousands) of dollars in a single day/night. It’s relatively common for a sex worker to only work a few days per week, instead of the usual five days (or more) that people in mainstream careers typically show up for. Even individuals who are educated for higher paying occupations often find that they can make more in the adult entertainment industry than they can doing what they went to school for. The fact is that adult entertainment is a niche industry that customers are willing to pay high dollars for. They are doling out money for your open-mindedness, discretion and skills. You may earn as much (or more!) than a doctor or lawyer in the same amount of time. And, it doesn’t require the degrees, student loans or length of time to gain the level of expertise to qualify for the job. In many careers within the industry, you get to establish your own rates, which enables your potential to earn a very fulfilling income.
  2. Flexibility: Being able to create your own schedule is not often an attribute of a “traditional” career. But, when you work in the adult entertainment business, it’s definitely an option. Blocking out time that you can’t work is totally doable, as long as you leave opportunities for clients to hook up with you during their peak times. Additionally, many careers in the adult entertainment industry work less traditional schedules. Your shifts may rotate during hours that are easier for you to work around your daily life and obligations. For instance, if you have children, you may be able to stay home with them during the day and leave at night to go work, after they are already in bed. Or, you may find yourself only having to work a few shifts per week. Additionally, when you work in the adult entertainment field, it’s very possible to work an irregular schedule, which comes in handy if your life is a little crazy with friends’ and family members’ activities that don’t occur on a regular basis.
  3. Opportunity to help others: Many customers of the adult entertainment industry are in need of your help. Some have difficulties or challenges in establishing or maintaining a relationship with another person, so they require the company of an escort for some affection and socialization, along with intimacy. Some just need a friendly face and a distraction from other stressers in their lives, so they visit gentleman’s clubs where exotic dancers provide eye candy and entertainment. And, others might need some “intimate” interactions, but can’t and don’t want to leave their homes for it. They may seek out that kind of stimulation from webcam performances. Whatever their reasons, clients and customers often have their own baggage they’re trying to overcome. Adult entertainment providers help out these individuals by just being nice, looking good and having an open mind. Your smile, attention and understanding may go a long way for customers who are lacking that in their personal lives. Being able to help others through your career can be especially rewarding. And, though, you may not think of what you do as world-changing, it makes all the difference to your clients.
  4. Chance to explore own sexuality: Regardless of what part of the industry you’re in, it’s likely that you’ve found yourself out of your personal comfort zone at least once. Unless you’ve racked up a lot of experience in alternative scenes prior to entering the industry, you’ve probably left a lot of your fantasies as just that. And, it’s probable that you’ve limited your exploration to the boundaries of past partners. Once you become active as an adult entertainment services provider, you will get the chance to push your own limitations and look beyond your “norm.” Requests from clients and employers may stretch you beyond your past experiences. And, as you observe others in the industry, you may be encouraged and intrigued by what you see, leading you to try new things. It’s possible that you will find new things you like and that you’re good at. At the same time, you may discover that something you wanted to try is just not for you. As a result of this trial and error on your part, you become a much more worldly sex worker, with a broader appeal to customers and clients. And, knowing what you like and don’t want is a definite turn on for most of your clientele.
  5. Opportunity to elevate your goals: To be successful in the adult entertainment business, you have to establish some goals. But, these goals are apt to be much higher than they would be if you didn’t start your provider career. For instance, breaking even may be a standard goal that you would’ve made prior to entering the career field, because that seemed the most reasonable. However, because the means are available to you, your new goals will feature much more. Getting out of poverty, elevating your standard of living, obtaining an education or creating your own business may be goals that are easily accessible to you. In addition, you may see that you can completely change your socioeconomic status in just a few months, if you work hard and appeal to clients. You can establish a whole new lifestyle with your new career.
  6. Chance to network: As a worker in the adult entertainment field, you get the opportunity to meet a variety of people, often in prestigious and powerful positions. And, while you should never take advantage of your relationships with those who lead impressive lives or earn massive wealth, it’s definitely worth your while to learn from them and make the most of your connections with them. Sometimes, it might just be that they will refer their friends to you for good times. Other opportunities might include mentorships, job recommendations and insider information when appropriate. They might help you connect with the “right” person for a job interview. Or, they might get you tickets to that event you’ve been dying to go to. The old saying of “It’s not what you know, but who you know” is certainly true. Often, knowing the right person through your connections may garner you lots of benefits. Additionally, it’s possible to network within the industry. You may find new people to associate with who understand your lifestyle. And, you will encounter new outlets for work, just through your involvement in the field.
  7. Gain confidence: Entering into the adult entertainment field can help you build confidence. Most women struggle with self esteem when associated with their own self images. They feel that their bodies are not quite right or dislike other aspects about themselves. When you become an escort, exotic dancer or webcam performer, it’s a little unnerving the first time or two you bare it all for a client. However, after you get a few compliments from your clients, you feel like a million bucks. You get a new appreciation for your ample booty or your porcelain skin, things you may have cursed about yourself prior. Most clients are very generous with compliments and aren’t afraid to lavish you with their own appreciation. They are drawn to you due to your beauty and charm. They regularly let you know how attracted to you they are, which makes you feel like the most admired woman in the world. This kind of attention can really boost your ego and give you the confidence that you can accomplish anything you set your sights on.
  8. Obtain leadership skills: Gaining confidence from your complimentary clients may give you a boost that will help you take steps toward your own independence from others. And, as you embark on your professional career as an adult entertainment services provider, you will gain leadership skills you may not have even known you had. Many careers within the industry allow for entrepreneurship and being your own boss. This requires you to develop leadership qualities that will allow you to take risks, make tough decisions and strategize your business moves. Being your own boss requires you to set priorities needed to reach goals, in addition to establishing methods that will be most effective to reach those objectives. You will learn how to encourage yourself and gain insight to your own motivations. Truly becoming a leader as you run your own business will benefit you, not only in your professional endeavors, but in your personal life, as well.
  9. Develop empathy: Without encountering others with difficult life situations or limitations, it’s unlikely that you have any opportunity to gain considerable empathy for people who are battling issues beyond your experience. However, when you work within the adult entertainment services field, it’s very probable that you will come across clients who battle obstacles everyday that make life hard for them. Whether it’s health issues (mental or physical) or traumatic histories that make them unlike others, they require special assistance to feel “normal.” After spending some time with these individuals you will gain empathy for the plight of anyone who struggles to fit in, in any way. They will give you an understanding of how discouraging it is never be like others or to find acceptance. And, you’ll observe, firsthand, how hard they try to be like everyone else, at least on the outside. Even though you may think it’s going to make you “soft,” gaining empathy just makes you a much nicer person. Being able to identify with others with an open mind will create countless opportunities for happiness on your end, in addition to heartbreak for your clients. Learning to have compassion for others is essential in life. However, be sure to not let it take over your business smarts. You are a professional and must retain your business relationship with clients and customers, unaffected by whatever issues they face. But, it helps you to accept their differences and eccentricities.
  10. Be more open-minded: Most people get in ruts and assume that “normal” is the same for everyone. If you learn nothing else from your experiences in the adult entertainment industry, the most important lesson is that “normal” is different for everyone. Just because you think you’re right or feel your preferences are pretty standard, it doesn’t mean that others will vary widely about what they like. For instance, escorts learn that clients have many sexual preferences that range from role playing, straight-up intercourse to bondage (and everything in between). Some clients prefer plus-sized exotic dancers, while others like thinner ones. Some viewers like fetish webcam performances, while others enjoy plain old self-pleasuring displays. You can’t ever predict what a client will want, so pigeon holing someone into a box isn’t going to get you anywhere. The same is true with life. You can’t “judge a book by its cover,” as the old saying goes. You will learn to accept that people are different and to appreciate that those differences make the world a more interesting and better place.
  11. Stay in shape: The adult entertainment industry has room for in it for people of all sizes. However, whatever size you are, you still want to be in pretty good shape in order to perform for your clients. Whether porn or escorting is your deal, you need to have stamina, strength and endurance. Even if you’re a plus-sized webcam model, get your legs in shape so they remain shapely and beautiful. Taking care of yourself physically is a requirement for the job, which is a great benefit personally. To perform at your best, get plenty of exercise, sneak in at least 8 to 9 hours of sleep each night, drink plenty of water and eat a balanced diet. This will keep you healthy, inside and out. Having an excuse to keep yourself in good shape is a great advantage to this career.
  12. Getting to be someone you’re not: One of the most fun elements of being an adult entertainment services provider is pretending to be someone you’re not. One of the most important rules of this industry is to maintain your anonymity. Keep your personal details to yourself for a couple of different reasons: 1) Reduce the chances of a fan/customer/client stalking you or seeking you out in your personal life, and 2) Clients/customers/fans want the fantasy, not the reality. They don’t want to know that you’re a wife and mom with three kids, two still in diapers. They want to imagine you as a hot, dirty librarian, or some other fantasy they’ve got running around in their heads. And, because you shouldn’t be who you really are when working professionally, it gives you the opportunity to recreate yourself in any manner you please. If you’re normally a meek, milder sort, you get the chance to become a wild, rebellious type. You can develop any kind of persona you want, which is really kind of fun and empowering. Being unrestrained to establish your own identity allows you to have freedom and excitement as you become someone new for clients.

12 wise ways for an escort to benefit from being “one of the guys”

Being “one of the guys” may not have always garnered you the adoration and admiration of the men you wanted, but it nearly always equated with being respected as an equal and being included in the group. Tomboys who can swig beer, swear, play ball, watch sports and keep up with the guys have always held important roles, in addition to being able to hold their own with their male counterparts. However, as you evolve your persona into that of an escort, it’s wise to retain your tomboy image as part of the marketing draw you use to attract clients.

Brazilian fanEven though you may think you lost out to “girly girls” during your formative years, you will find that a significant number of prospective clients really dig an escort who can hang out and prove herself in a group of male peers. It really is good for business, and here is why:

  1. Clients seek out escorts with similar interests. If your clients are “manly men”, they undoubtedly like typical “guy stuff”. Whether that involves the NASCAR chase, NFL Sundays or just a good game of darts, the type of guys you will get along best with are the ones who indulge in manly pastimes. And, in turn, they appreciate an escort like you who can engage in their hobbies or interests, along with them without seeming disinterested or confused. At the same time, these are your perfect clients, because you don’t have to pretend to be interested in what they are involved with; you already enjoy the hobbies, yourself. Being able to enjoy the hobbies you discuss with your clients makes the time with them all the more enjoyable for you. Also, it doesn’t require any extra work from you to seem genuine or research during your spare time to discuss topics intelligently. Embrace your inner tomboy and let her work her magic on your clients.
  2. Tomboys have always been a challenge to men. Even though you probably didn’t know it, many of your guy friends probably thought you were too much of a challenge to pursue. They knew you were a prize and may not have felt worthy. Many of your clients, though, will see that your persona makes you a challenge. It’s a personal quest for many men to turn the head of a tough gal who makes it her mission to never “need” a man. Because they see you as a challenge to pursue, it’s even more fun and intriguing to book an encounter with you. Extend the challenge with a “hard to get” attitude (while still tempting your client enough to book time with you) and you’ve got him lured in. Clients can’t resist a woman who is sure enough of herself that she insists that a man convince her why she should give him a second look. Men fall all over themselves to prove themselves to women all of the time; it’s no different when they deal with escorts. They enjoy the chase; and, a mischievous tomboy gives a great target for pursuit.
  3. Your insight to the male psyche can be used to enhance your marketing and communicate effectively. Because you’ve spent a lot of time hanging out with the guys, you know how they think and what motivates them. You’ve likely even engaged in conversations about other women with them, so you are aware of what amps them up in a sexual relationship and why they choose to date certain women. Utilize this knowledge when you create your online escort profiles. Tease and tempt through your verbiage in your profile, and create alluring photos of yourself that will push just the right buttons in the clients you are hoping to attract. Appeal to their “guy” sides with sporting slang, images and attitude. Your inner knowledge of what they talk about during a night out, especially when a beautiful woman walks by, can help you create a profile that will attract a guy who is looking to be challenged by a fun-loving escort.
  4. The transformation from tomboy to sexy siren is hot! Every guy loves a woman who can go from one low-key look to beautiful in just an instant. Create a look for yourself that features a very simple, casual image that exhibits youth, athleticism and fun, and then find a way to easily transform it into sexy with a quick transition. Of course, wearing a lacy bra and panty set under your jeans and t-shirt is one of the easiest transformations possible. Other ideas include bringing along a sexy dress to change into or throwing on a bit of make-up and putting on a pretty sweater with your jeans. Regardless of how you transform yourself, realize that it’s a fantasy of a man to have a woman who is so flexible in who she is. Being able to go and get dirty playing outside and spend only a few minutes freshening, all the while transforming into a “hottie”, will blow a client’s mind. Demonstrate to your client the multi-faceted personality you have, focusing lastly on the sexy side he wants to get to know more of before the encounter is over.
  5. Clients are looking for a confident escort. They don’t want to have to spend the majority of an encounter lavishing a woman with compliments in order to make her feel good about herself. And, a client also wants an escort who is sure enough of herself that she knows what she wants and can tell him that, too. Confidence is sexy. There is something inherently hot about a woman who knows her own mind and is sure enough of herself to express her thoughts, despite the outcomes or what others think. Most tomboys are relatively self-assured and do not lack the ability to speak their minds. Clients are attracted to these traits. They want to surround themselves in real life with strong-minded individuals; why wouldn’t they want to find an escort nearby like this, too? Women who consistently hang out with “the guys” have to be confident in themselves in order to sustain the degrading banter that usually accompanies socializing as “one of the boys”. Escorts who can maintain their confidence with “the guys” are a big hit with clients when they enter the escort industry.
  6. Escorts who classify themselves as tomboys are perceived as less complicated. The women who hang out with “the guys” are usually stereotyped as being more down to earth than their counterparts. More grounded, less petty and non-games playing personalities tend to gravitate to hanging out with male groups, according to a study researched by Cal Tech. The research team’s study proved that in certain situations, women who considered themselves less worried about drama had more male friends than female ones. Clients who seek out escorts that will provide drama-free encounters and relationships may benefit by spending time with tomboy types. They are uninterested in third-party conversations, gossiping and dwelling on details of conflicts. Generally speaking, if you’re a tomboy-type escort, clients automatically assume that you are grounded and easy to get along with. They don’t expect a lot of complicated issues to arise when they book time with you.
  7. Tomboy escorts are less easily offended. Much of the time describing themselves as “easy going” or “not taking things personally”, escorts who have always been “one of the boys” roll with life and its events much more easily than others. They are less paranoid and self-centered than other women who have bigger egos or are more self-aware. Tomboyish escorts are not terribly concerned with what others think of them; they are much more worried about how much fun they are having or how funny the last joke was. They tease their friends about humorous matters, often participating in self-deprecating comments or talk. They don’t take to heart and know that people kid around a lot. And, when they do get a genuine criticism or insult from someone, they are usually prepared with an equally biting comment to return. Clients like escorts who fit this mold, because they don’t have to worry about saying something wrong or untactful that might hurt their feelings.
  8. The art of banter is a trait that many clients look for. Many tomboyish escorts are quite skilled in being able to banter or throw wit back and forth during a conversation. Puns, jokes, funny sayings and using intelligence to make creative and humorous points are things that many clients look for when they want to spend time with an escort. Being able to be stimulated by a witty escorts is not only fun, but it is also incredibly sexy. Just as women value a sense of humor as a quality that makes a man sexy, men do, too. They enjoy being able to laugh with a woman who not only can snicker at his jokes, but can come up with some of her own, too.
  9. Escorts who are low maintenance are in high demand. Generally, tomboyish women are considered to be easier to take care of. They aren’t as demanding, require fewer gifts/trinkets to be happy and don’t need hours to pamper themselves in order to be attractive. Clients who regularly hire escorts know that maintaining a relationship with them can be difficult, sometimes, especially with providers who expect hefty tips or constant compliments. Women who need their egos stroked more than the clients do rarely fare well in the escort industry. But tomboyish escorts who need minimal attention in order to do their jobs well are in high demand. Clients want to know that when they hire an escort, the emphasis is going to be on them (not the escort) and that they don’t have to work hard to impress her, too. Escorts who label themselves as tomboys are usually preferred by clients who don’t want to have to work extra hard to develop a consistent relationship.
  10. Tomboyish escorts are thought to be adventurous. They are always up for outdoor activities, sporting events and other “guy” outings. They may drink beer, eat pretzels and play darts. They can wear jeans and a t-shirt out and about for a day of fun. They are open to new activities and adventures, like boating, motorcycles and racing. And, while all of this may be true, many clients take the spirit of adventure one step further with their expectations in the bedroom. Because an escort of this type usually has an “anything goes” attitude, a client may hope that means she’s equally open minded about intimate activities. From anal to fetish activities, clients may expect that a tomboyish escort will indulge his deepest (and darkest) fantasies in ways that other escorts wouldn’t. Escorts need to watch out for clients who just assume that she’s up for anything without asking first.
  11. Clients like an escort to be tough, strong and in control. Many clients are CEOs, managers or business owners in their personal lives. They are constantly in control of their environments and the people around them. When they look for an escort, it’s kind of fun for them to reverse roles and allow someone else to be the boss. As a result, escorts who can be in control are highly sought after commodities in the industry. Tomboyish escorts often have great leadership capabilities and can maintain order over any situation, including an encounter with a willing client. And, while many clients don’t want to go the complete dominatrix route, they can indulge their need to be out of control with an escort who is willing to take the lead.
  12. Tomboyish escorts are assumed to be smarter than their counterparts. Unlike the airheaded bimbos that some escorts make themselves out to be (even if they aren’t), tomboys usually demonstrate the wit and personality traits of a smart person. Clients want an escort that is not only beautiful and fun, but they want her to be intelligent, too. It’s much easier to hold conversations with someone who is informed and up-to-date on current events.

While clients may seek out an escort who exhibits the qualities of a typical tomboy, you must keep in mind that they are not usually paying you to “hang out”. They want you to transform yourself from the tomboy into a sex kitten when they feel it’s time to “get busy”. Don’t expect your fanaticism for their favorite team or your knowledge of the ’96 playoff team to retain your clients. You must entertain them in other appropriate ways, too, in order to turn your clients into regulars that consistently book encounters.

Celebrity culture and escort services

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