13 ways for escorts to stay positive in a negative world

Not only does the gloom and doom in the news cast negative light in the world, but the people you encounter may bring you down with their pessimistic and, generally, bad attitudes. Working in the adult industry as an entertainment provider, you battle the stigma daily that suggests you are “dirty”, unintelligent, under the influence, or immoral. It’s a tough world to live in, but you don’t have to let it get to you. There are many ways you can stay positive in an oppressively negative world. Consider these methods of choosing your outlook: Continue reading

How to reject and be rejected in the adult entertainment world?

In the adult entertainment industry, both providers and clients get turned down and hand out rejections daily. It’s a common thing, but it’s kind of a big deal when it involves you personally. Knowing how to deal with it when it’s on your plate (as the giver or receiver) is the key to making sure that communications are clear and all interactions remain cordial and “nice” between all parties involved.

Here are some tips for both providers and customers: Continue reading

How and why to switch between the genres of adult entertainment?

The adult entertainment industry includes many unique genres. While they may all have some similarities and provide similar outcomes for customers, they include different methods of achieving client satisfaction. It’s fairly common for providers to begin following one career path, only to change directions as they learn more about other options. Transitioning to another adult entertainment genre is fully possible, if you follow some helpful tips and are altering your path for a good reason.

What are some justifiable and understandable reasons to change career directions within the industry? Continue reading

11 scenarios providers are officially tired of

There are some themes in the adult entertainment industry that are consistent requests for providers. Customers ask for these scenarios repeatedly. The first few times a provider performs them, it’s ok. But, when the request is so common that it becomes the “standard” for client interactions, it gets old really fast. As a customer, it’s important for you to ask for what you want when hiring a provider. But, it also pays to use some creativity and think beyond the most recent porn movie you saw or clichéd dance performance you witnessed at the club down the street. Continue reading

How to ensure your escort is exactly who you want to meet

When you start looking for an escort online, it can be pretty overwhelming. The options are endless, the providers are gorgeous and it may make your head spin. When you started looking for one particular service, you may be distracted by something else that sounds fun. An ASP you hadn’t even considered before may strike your fancy — only to be replaced by the next pretty face you stumble on. In short, it’s really hard to choose a provider. But, to get the kind of services you really want, you need to do the work to ensure you get exactly what and who you want. Continue reading

How not to creep out your escort: 13 keys

Escorts of all tints of the adult entertainment industry are forever on the lookout for customers who are safety threats. Despite their attempts to screen clients, some truly scary characters slip through the gaps and create problems for providers. Because there are so many questionable types who call upon them for their services, providers are usually pretty defensive and vigilant about identifying threatening types. Knowing this, you should be on your very best behavior and avoid behaviors that would cause your provider to be creeped out by your presence. Here are some behaviors you shouldn’t engage in: Continue reading

10 disputes with a client that an escort should be prepared for

There is no business in existence that will sustain without some level of controversy with its clientele, at some point in time. It’s just a common part of doing business. You’re not always going to agree. When you’re an escort, it’s easy to take these disputes to heart. When you’re giving pieces of yourself and you put everything you have into your performances, it’s hurtful when someone acts displeased with your efforts. Some disputes are worth worrying about, while others shouldn’t stress you out, at all. Consider some common disputes you may run across as you do your thing: Continue reading

10 signs you need a break from adult entertainment

Any career can drive you to your wit’s end. You can feel like if you don’t get a day, week or month off you’ll scream, trash your office and move you and your family to a deserted island… if only you had the funds! Being a provider for the adult entertainment industry is no different. Although the job may sound glamorous and the pay is outstanding, there are stresses and hazards to the job that make you want to throw in the towel and go work at the corner gas station. But, you go back the next day or night. And, keep doing your thing. But at some point, you may experience an a-ha moment that tells you that you need a break from your career. You need to pay attention when you realize any of these things are true about yourself: Continue reading

15 ways adult entertainers’ work spills into their “real” lives

As an adult industry actor, you assume that there is no way ever that your professional life will cross over into your personal one. Obviously, what you do as a services provider is much, much different than your role as a wife, mother or daughter, right? That’s pretty true, but certain aspects of your life do cross over and affect your day-to-day life. Consider the following ways that your career impacts your “real” life: Continue reading

Escort as a life coach?

We received a note from an escort in Seattle who wrote, “I was reading your article about the girl in Washington DC who runs her ultra-discreet escorting business under the guise of a life coaching business. I thought that was pretty smart because I do much the same thing but with a fetish twist.”

Of course we wanted to know more and we arranged a Skype call with “Miss Fiona Arpel”. Miss Arpel is in her early thirties and when we video conferenced she was in a lovely, fitted, vintage suit sitting in what looked like a book lined study.

“Nicely headmistress don’t you think?” she said with a smile and we dove into our interview. Continue reading