Have a disability? Let your escort know

If it’s your first time with an escort, chances are you’re already a tiny bit nervous and anticipatory. It’s an intimate relationship, one that should be fun, exciting and extremely personal on both sides. Clients hire escorts for a wide variety of activities, and when you buy the time of a beautiful and intelligent person, you obviously want to get the most out of your time together.

Which is why, if you have a disability, there are some key things you can do to assure that things will go smoothly and you’ll have an unbelievably memorable time.

Escorts are professionals, guided by their industry and personal experience to give you the most of themselves that they can give. They look at each client as an individual experience, and strive to make sure that your particular wishes are granted. Yet they’re not mind-readers, nor are they heavily trained to work with persons with disabilities on any general level (though an estimated 50% of professional escorts see clients with disabilities regularly and consider it a rewarding part of their job). So the more information about who you are and any restrictions you may have that you can give, the better. And if you’re hiring the escort on behalf of a friend with a disability, that communication is even that more important.

When searching for an escort you may want to hire, have a general idea of what you’d like to do before you make contact. Are you going out somewhere in public, or do you want more personal, intimate time together? Are you going someplace that is familiar to you or will you be in new territory? Think of the escort like they are going to become your new incredibly attractive, wonderfully sensitive friend: how can you make them the most comfortable in your time together as possible? How can you make her comfortable so that she can make you comfortable?

Once you have these things in mind and have chosen an escort that you think you’d like to spend some time with, make the initial contact with any questions or concerns in mind. As a professional, she knows that you might be curious about the specifics of hiring her. Don’t be shy to ask any specific questions you might have. Keeping communication open from the beginning is key to make sure you’re both on the same page when you’re together.

When you first talk, there are some general questions she’ll be asking you: Is it your first time with an escort? What would you like to do in your time together? Do you have a reference? What is your profession and general contact information? How did you hear about her service? etc. These are all valid questions that both help her get to know you and give her enough about you so that she may trust seeing you in person. She may ask you about your likes and preferences, or any fantasies that you might want to play out together. Those are valid, and you can feel free to ask her about her likes and dislikes as well.

But there is a line, both what she is offering as an escort and legally what she can discuss with you. Remember, when you hire the company of an escort, you’re hiring her time and company. You are not paying them for anything but their time, and any lewd discussions are strongly discouraged: after all, you might be police officer trying to trap her, or that you’re soliciting her for prostitution. So keep in mind that there are some things that shouldn’t be discussed, and let her lead the conversation if you’re worried about what can and cannot be said.

Once you’ve gotten to know each other a little bit, it’s time to tell her about your disability. Escorts want to make sure you have an incredible time together, and that means being prepared for any special scenarios that might arise, related to your disability or not.

If you are in a wheelchair or use a walker or crutches, letting her know will help her arrange where you’ll be together: if you’re going to restaurant or bar she’ll want to make sure you have easy access tow here you’ll meet; if you’re spending time in a hotel she’ll need to make sure it’s wheelchair accessible.

If you’re blind, she’ll need to know what you look like or specifically what you’ll be wearing and specifically where you’ll be meeting, so that she can find you. Having a key phrase for her to say to you when meeting will also help you feel assured that she is the specific person you’re meeting. If you have a guide dog, let her know in case she’s uncomfortable around animals, and so she can make sure where you’ll be meeting is ready for a furry friend. And if you use a computer or cell phone with voice translation, let her know so that she can keep her vocabulary as clear and clean as possible.

If you’re deaf and communicate initially through email, let her know how communication will be for you in person. Escorts are naturally intuitive, friendly people. Putting him or her at ease with this upon first communication means that she can focus on the intimate aspects of your time together without worrying about too much about either of your comfort levels in regards to this part.

If you have a mental disability, give her whatever information you find relevant: Will you need help finding the meeting place, communicating desires and preferences etc.? Are there any medical conditions she should be aware of?

Finally, while you’re paying for the time you spend together, let the escort know if there are any physical things she should know about you: if certain things cause you discomfort or pain, let her know how to avoid them.

Escorts see a wide variety of clients, and deal with confidence and shyness on a person-to-person basis. It’s natural to feel a bit bashful upon first meeting, but it’s her job to make sure you’re as comfortable and relaxed as possible, so any initial nerves should be soothed rather quickly. Once you’re together, feel free to address any of the above points that you might have thought of after you booked the time together. Escorts are companions, confidants, and intimate friends. What you desire from their company can change as often as you want it to, and letting them know what you fancy helps her make sure you have an incredible time.

What’s most important is that you loosen up and just be yourself: your escort will want to know who you are and what specifically makes you happy so that he or she can try to provide that as fully as possible.