As an escort, you know the importance of screening your clients ahead of time. Properly screening clients keeps you safe, helps avoid pranksters and enables you to rule out any suspicious characters who may be law enforcement officials. While there is a long list of “dos” when you research your clients and verify their identities, there are also several “don’ts” you should take into account, too.
Clients often feel that an escort invades their privacy by asking required questions in order to screen them. However, some escorts do go above and beyond what should be required in order to properly investigate a prospective client. Escorts who cross boundaries when screening are just as loathsome as clients who lie or push for special privileges. Avoid these top 11 things when screening a client:
- Don’t ask about your client’s income. As long as your client can pay your fee, his income is no business of yours. Asking or guessing about your client’s income may make him suspicious about you. Clients are always on the lookout for escorts who are going to scam them or threaten them in other ways. When you ask about his income, you leave yourself open to additional scrutiny from your client. (And justifiably so.) Clients must be careful to avoid escorts who may be plotting to blackmail, rob or kidnap them in order to get a small fortune. If you’re really that curious about what type of income your client makes, most high-profile professionals’ net worth are available online.
- Don’t ask about a client’s marital status. Regardless of whether a client is married, engaged, divorced, widowed or completely single, he is contacting you because he wants to spend time with you in exchange for your modest fee. Unless you have some non-traditional standard about not seeing a particular type of client, his relationship status is not your concern. Whether he is attached or unattached shouldn’t enable you to do your job any better or more efficiently. You’re not looking for a husbAnd so setting your mark on single clients isn’t an option. And many clients will see this as a direct invasion into their personal lives. They may also read more into it than you intend, suspecting you of planning to blackmail them with the threat of telling their partners.
- Don’t get into your client’s personal business. If a client recently went through a messy divorce, it’s not your business to dig into court records to learn about the divorce settlement or how much alimony he is paying his ex-wife. Similarly, don’t delve into a client’s scandalous past, his cheating ex-girlfriend or other pitfalls in life that may have played themselves out in public in the media. However, if your client has been involved in violent assaults, including domestic disputes, it is your business. Often, men who are abusers of partners will project that same type of violence onto escorts.
- Don’t contact your potential client’s employer. If you’re having difficulties verifying your client’s identity, it’s acceptable to call his employer and verify his status. You can pretend to be a loan officer or a club representative who is following up on an application. But if you can double-check his employment through an online search or other means, do not call his place of work. Additionally, if you do call the employer, do not ask questions about his performance, timeliness, length of tenure or other details. Asking too many questions may cause suspicion and implications for him.
- Don’t call his residence. Even though you may want to verify that your client actually lives where he claims he does, calling his residence is not the proper way to find out. You are crossing a line by contacting him at home. In addition to crossing a line by calling him, you could reach his children or wife, instead. Your anonymous phone call could raise red flags and cause him to be in hot water, especially if things are tense between him and his wife, already.
- Don’t ask personal questions that are unnecessary for your screening process. Many clients are very forthcoming with information when they understand your screening procedure and purpose. They will gladly tell you what you need to know in order to get an encounter booked. However, it’s terribly easy to take advantage of cooperative clients by asking inappropriate questions. If you find yourself pushing your client for information that you won’t need in order to verify his identity and background, then you’re crossing boundaries. General questions about his name, age, employment, criminal history and address are acceptable. If you begin inquiring about how many times he’s been married, how many kids he has and which church he attends, you’re going too far.
- Don’t spy on your prospective client. If you’ve had a hard time verifying some of the information he has given you, it may be necessary to follow a client from his place of work to his home to ensure he is who he claims to be. However, if you’re finding yourself following him to lunch, the bar after work or shopping with his wife on a Saturday, you’ve begun to invade your client’s privacy. Despite how discreet you are, you run the risk of getting caught by your client (And he’s sure to run you off after that!) or missing out on other encounters with other clients by spending your time spying. You don’t have time for this; you’ve got a successful business that needs tending to.
- Don’t show up in person to investigate your client. Masquerading as a door-to-door vacuum sales person or a survey taker is not an effective method of verifying that your client actually lives where he says he does. It’s not acceptable to show up at his workplace, pretending to be a customer or a delivery person. Running into your client somewhere you shouldn’t ahead of time is a violation of his privacy and a deception of discretion between the two of you. Your client hasn’t provided you with information about himself, just to have you show up in person to check him out. It’s not professional, and you shouldn’t waste your time doing it.
- Don’t drag out the screening process for no reason. Some escorts drag out the process, because their guts tell them to beware of a client. When you have a negative feeling about a client, it’s perfectly advisable to slow down to ensure you don’t miss something. However, if you’re dragging out the process because a client is older, unattractive or slightly unappealing in some other way, it’s not fair to your client. If you decide you don’t want to book an encounter with a client, tell him sooner rather than later, so that he can look for a new escort. Regardless of who the client is or what he looks like, he deserves to be advanced through the screening process fairly and expeditiously.
- Don’t get too busy to screen new clients. While it’s great that you have a full client list and are happy with your current business, it never hurts to add a couple more to your calendar for rainy days. Make time to screen new clients to ensure that your business remains steady. You never know when a regular client will call it quits with you, leaving a gaping hole in your schedule (and pocketbook). By making the time each month for a couple of new clients, you are expanding your ability to run a thriving business that remains successful throughout time. You shouldn’t feel pressured to take every client who comes your way, but you ought to be open to a couple of new ones once in awhile.
- Don’t let a new client charm you into disregarding your screening process. Even if your charmer insists that he doesn’t have time for you to screen him, do not proceed with a personal visit until you’ve researched him enough to verify his identify. Ted Bundy and other serial killers were very charming and talked several women into trusting them. Don’t allow a client to convince you he’s okay just because he’s a smooth talker with a twinkle in his eye. Stick to your screening guns and check everyone out.