Escorts often have more $100 bills than their friends and their cash seems to flow more freely than ever before in their lives. If you struggled in life before becoming an escort, it is quite understandable that your friends and family members may wonder how you’ve suddenly become so financially flush.
When you whip out a hundred to pay for snacks on a shopping trip or mention your weekend excursion to the coast, they may worry whether you’re living beyond your means or are involved in something shady. Others may simply want to know your secret, so they, too, can experience the good life. Explaining your extra cash flow can be tricky, especially to the people who know you best.
The most important thing about your explanation is to keep it as simple, generic and boring as possible
When you provide specific details about your finances, you are setting yourself up for having to remember your lies and for people to later catch you in your falsehoods. Avoid long-winded explanations, details or other complicated aspects to your story. With this in mind, use any one of these top 12 ways to explain your extra cash flow:
- Don’t flash your cash information. The best way to avoid questions is to behave in such a way that no one wonders. Don’t let others know how much money you have or make as an escort. Refrain from mentioning how much you spent on items or trips. Avoid mentioning that you stayed at a luxury hotel on your last vacation. Pay with smaller bills or a credit/debit card, instead of throwing around big $100 bills for small items. Your mindless comments may also give you away when talking about money. For instance, if someone is talking about paying $100 for a concert ticket and you reply that it’s “chump change”, you are giving them a green light to comment about your perception of money. Keep yourself in check and try to maintain your old views about cash and costs, at least in front of those who might question you.
- Claim that you’ve become better at setting priorities and sticking to a budget. People who live on budgets always seem to have more cash on hand for items they want or need. Telling someone that you’ve learned to budget better is a very reasonable explanation, especially since so many workshops and seminars focus on tightening the purse strings. Along this same line of thinking, you can also state that your priorities have gotten clearer as you examined where your money was going. Explain that you realized you would have more money to spend if you were content with driving an older car or living more frugally through eating out fewer times or setting your thermostat a few degrees differently. Mention to curious friends that you’ve discovered that saving a few dollars here and there really frees up cash for you to use in other places.
- Always use cash to pay. Most people who pay in cash are much better at realizing where their spending really goes. It’s a method used by many to limit their excesses and budget better. It’s easy for you to pay in cash regularly, as you typically have money on hand from encounters. You can explain to others that you’ve adopted this method as a way to live more within your means. Mention that it may seem like you have more money simply because you’re spending more wisely and with more specific purpose. Explain that you really don’t have more cash flow, but your new method helps you spend it on better things.
- Be known as a bargain shopper. If all of your friends know that you regularly hit the clearance racks and utilize coupons and other discounts when you can, your extra cash flow or endless supply of new outfits may not cause them to even bat an eye. However, if someone does ask about your new Jimmy Choo shoes or designer bag, inform him or her that you found a great deal on eBay or at a consignment boutique. Better yet, you can tell him or her that it’s a knock-off and only cost you $20 (or any other figure that seems reasonable). And, despite the fact that it’s not always fun to downplay purchases that you may be proud of, it’s for the best when it helps you avoid complications in your personal life through hiding your professional one.
- Inform the questioner that you made some great investments with amazing returns. Everyone wants to think the stock market or other investment methods really pay off. The success stories cause dreamers to want to jump on board and put in their savings, with hopes of doubling or tripling their money. It’s easy for others to believe that you employed a financial advisor to help you invest wisely. Telling them that your financial planner pretty much orchestrated everything, and you’re not even fully sure how he pulled it off is a way to avoid the onslaught of questions that will surely follow. Tell them it was a combination of investments that paid off well, but that you doubt it’s ever possible to duplicate the effects. Or, inform them you’re a silent investor in a successful start-up business.
Confess that you won a small lottery prize. Appearing sheepish makes this explanation even more believable, as you inform your friend or family member that you won a modest amount from the Powerball or a scratch-off ticket. Divulge that you feel sort of silly for purchasing the ticket in the first place, and explain that you decided to keep your winnings quiet, as a result. Explain that you’ve stashed most of it away, but you’re enjoying a portion of it while it lasts. Your friends may be jealous, but they probably won’t ask you many more questions, except for how much you won. It’s up to you whether you create a figure to tell them or choose to remain mum.
- Share with your friend or family member that you got a raise, a second job or are conducting some freelance work on the side. Create a story about additional income in your life due to hard work or your talents. You could tell them that you model for a local designer or photographer. Another good story is that you are doing some online marketing work at night. If you have a full-time job, getting a raise or a considerable bonus is a great explanation for your increased cash flow. Despite which explanation you use along these lines, make sure that you inform others that your good fortune is due to your efforts to improve your financial status. Make it a story about how you were tired of struggling financially, so you decided to take your financial matters into your own hands and fix them by generating more income.
- Explain travel and trips by conjuring up a story about using a friend’s frequent flyer miles or airline vouchers. Some people acquire vast amounts of frequent flyer miles on their credit cards and never use them. They sometimes sell or give them away to friends. Simply indicate that a friend had extra miles he or she wasn’t going to use and offered them to you. You can share that you obtained great discounts on your hotels, and when you figured that airline was free, the vacation was too good to miss out on. Most people will understand why you would take advantage of trips like that. Usually, the conversation will shift from “How can you afford that?” to “Tell me all about it!”
- Tell your questioners that you have set up monthly payments or installments in order to afford certain things. Major appliances, vehicles, electronics or other items can be put on monthly payment plans. If you’re being harassed due to major purchases you have made lately, tell others that you’re paying them off monthly. You can even tell them that you’ve balanced out your spending by signing up for a monthly average utility bill. Another great explanation involving monthly payments and spending is that you were able to get your rent reduced or mortgage payments decreased through refinancing. When you explain to others that your cash flow really hasn’t increased, but that you’ve utilized monthly installment programs, they may feel better about your income. (Beware, though: they may still be worried that you’re getting in debt over your head through too many monthly payments. Questions, comments and suggestions may follow.)
- Share that you’ve received a settlement or small inheritance. This explanation will not work with people who know you well and have been around you for most of your life. However, anyone who doesn’t know your life history could believe that you got a workman’s comp or car accident settlement when you were younger. They might also believe that you had a dear, old aunt who left you a sizable fund that you use for fun money. Don’t elaborate on your story; just share the main detail and leave it at that, like it’s really no big deal. If you act like it’s nothing, your friend/acquaintance may drop the subject.
- Select a cover story job with good income potential for your explanation. When someone asks about your cash flow, simply tell them you’ve been working more and picked up some very good clients. (This won’t be a lie, but it won’t be the complete truth since your questioner thinks you’re talking about your other job.) If your cover job is flexible and has a wide range of income, it’s a very believable prospect that you’ve become very successful in recent months, which can explain the jump in your finances.
- Inform someone who is nosing into your finances that it’s none of his or her business. Your money matters should be nobody’s interest besides your own. And, if someone else thinks he or she has a right to pry into your financial fitness, you should make it explicitly clear that he or she is wrong. Finances have always been a private issue for people. You should never allow someone to make you feel as though you must defend or explain yourself when making purchases or spending your money. This is especially true if you are earning enough to support your lifestyle and are not relying on others for assistance.
Keep in mind that when you are an escort, your abilities to trust others at face value may be a bit compromised. When someone makes a comment about the way you spend your money or your increased cash flow, he or she may not be criticizing or truly questioning your financial status. It may just be idle conversation with no intention of rattling your cage at all. Use caution before getting too defensive, and realize that not everyone is accusing you of keeping secrets from them.