After a few dates with an escort, clients may begin to feel that the rules don’t apply to them anymore. Feeling like they have the inside track or are privileged to a different set of standards, many regular clients become time-wasters.
They fail to show up on time, push boundaries by insisting on more attention or expect discounts and special favors. Great clients can become problem clients in a matter of a few appointments.
Many escorts feel they have it made when they have a succession of regular clients to depend upon, however problems can arise with even the most unexpected client. It leaves an escort wondering what to do when a regular client becomes a time-waster. Here are some tips:
- Discuss your concerns with your client. Some escorts see discernible differences in their clients’ hygiene habits, punctuality tendencies and other positive traits that make them good clients. When habits decline to the point that good clients become undependable or undesirable ones, it’s time to address your concerns. When it becomes obvious that you need to have a talk with your client, schedule in some extra time after an encounter. Or, you can address your concerns over the telephone at one of the times that your client is trying to waste your time with superfluous phone attention. Gently bring up the subject(s) that’s bothering you and ask your client if something has changed in his life. Do not pry and avoid sounding nosy. Express your concern for your client and let him know how much you’ve appreciated what a superb client he has been. Carefully (and tactfully!) elaborate about how his habits have changed and you are starting to enjoy your time with him less, as a result. For some clients, this is all they need as a wake-up call to get them back on track. Others may be more difficult.
- Re-confirm your rules with the client. Clients that seem to be taking your rules and guidelines for granted need reminding, sometimes. Through email or in person, reiterate the rules that you feel your client is breaking. If it’s a matter of timing, express your concern that he is ignoring your guidelines. If your client fails to show up or is becoming habitually late, remind him that he is responsible for paying for your time. Because your client is a regular, you likely have had a positive relationship with up until now.
Inform your client, gently, that you feel she is disrespecting you by failing to follow your guidelines
Let them know that you’ve tolerated their failure to follow the rules up to now, but you won’t continue to ignore this behavior. Tell them that failure to go along with your guidelines has repercussions.
- Charge your client for time she misses. Clients who suddenly make it a habit to be “no-shows” or are newly consistently late should be held responsible for paying for your time. If you charge your client via credit card, you can easily bill him for the time he’s missed, but scheduled. Sometimes, it pays to ask your client for a deposit up front, to ensure that you’re compensated for any missed appointments. Explain to your client that you have a pre-pay or upfront deposit policy for clients who fail to arrive to appointments on time (or at all). By insisting that your client put down a deposit or pay in advance for time he books with you may bring your client back around, especially if he’s just taking his time with you for granted. However, be prepared for your client to take his business elsewhere. (If he does take his business elsewhere, you really aren’t out much, since he’s been missing appointments, anyways.)
- Require a confirmation from your client one hour before your scheduled encounter. Explain to your client that you’ve been having several “no-shows” lately, which ultimately costs you money through lost fees. (Unless he’s completely oblivious, he will know you are discreetly talking about him.) When you explain that you’ve been having “no-shows,” tell him that you are now requiring clients to confirm encounters an hour in advance. If he fails to confirm, make arrangements with another client who may have wanted the time slot, but had to wait because you were booked. If your client shows up without confirming, remind him of the new rule. Most clients who respect you will follow through. Others who don’t, aren’t worth having.
- Give clients a taste of their own medicine by showing up late like they do. Do this only with repeat clients who habitually make you wait. However, when you do this, be aware that this may reflect on your professionalism. If a client doesn’t recognize that he, himself, always runs late and requires you to adjust your schedule for him, arriving late to appointments with him will not accomplish anything constructive. It could result in losing a client or receiving negative reviews. Use this tactic with caution; it may backfire on you and make you look like the disrespectful one.
- Tell your client to arrive half an hour earlier than when you truly expect him for an encounter. Clients who are habitually late will never be on time. If you decide to simply accept this behavior because he is a good client otherwise, you can still make it work to your advantage. (Many people operate this way with friends or family members who are always late — they tell a friend to meet them at 11:30am for lunch, when they really mean to meet at noon. That way they aren’t left waiting for 30 minutes or more on someone.) Be prepared to arrive to meet your client a few minutes early, but when you schedule encounters this way you won’t be left waiting for 30 minutes or more.
- Reject your talkative clients’ phone calls. When you see your client’s phone number pop up on your caller ID, hit ignore. A client who previously knew the rules about phone calls, may quickly get the idea when you reject a few of his phone calls. And, when you do accept his phone calls or texts, do not allow yourself to get sucked into long-winded conversations or extended text exchanges. Long-term clients who suddenly begin to take advantage of your friendship by expecting you to give them more phone time are wasting your time, unless they begin to book more time with you as a result. If they don’t, feel free to reject their calls or inform them immediately that unless they are booking an encounter, you don’t have time to chat.
- Refuse your regular clients’ spontaneous bookings. A client who casually swings by your incall location for some time with you is disrespecting you and your boundaries, unless you’ve explicitly invited him to do so. Do no consent to a booking just because your client happened to be in the neighborhood and swung by. You must keep your rules and boundaries intact, and accepting spontaneous or short-notice bookings is not how to do that. If necessary, explain to your client that this method of making an appointment is unacceptable. Sometimes, this is all it takes to encourage a client to take a step backward and remember the rules of your relationship.
- Avoid haggling with a client, even a long-term one. Haggling over your rates is not conducive to your business as an escort. You’ve set your rates, and your regular client knows how that works. He knows that your rates are not negotiable. And, if he asks you to compromise your rates just because he’s a regular, he is showing a level of disrespect. Additionally, haggling over your price for an encounter is a waste of your time that you could be using to communicate with another client. Do not allow yourself to get drug into conversations about discounts or special deals because a client is a long-term one. Explain to your client that your rates are non-negotiable and discussions about your rates are off-limits. If your client cannot accept this, then he can find another escort who is willing to negotiate with him. One other point to make to your client is that because he is a long-term client, he (of all people) should know the value of your services. By asking you to reduce your rates, he is insinuating to you that your services are unworthy of your rates. Once you explain this to your client, he is likely to back down and accept your rate, no more questions asked.
- Block time-wasting clients altogether. Even though some clients may have been good clients in the past, the advantages of seeing them are contestable once they cross the line to being time-wasters. If you’ve attempted to communicate your concerns with him and gotten nowhere, it may be time to simply block the client and put an end to your relationship with him. Inform your client that you are blocking him and do not intend to take future phone calls from him or respond to emails from him later. Do not reply to requests for encounters and avoid conversations with the client in any other format. A client who wastes your time is not worth worrying about in the future. Block his number with your phone and add his email address to your junk mail addresses. Wipe him from your list of active clients. Consistent, loyal clients are a blessing to have for an escort. However, when these clients become time-wasters and end up costing you more than you receive from them, it’s time to cut them loose.