We’re all humans, we all appreciate a little R&R in our lives, so wouldn’t it be nice if we could just get our rocks off without having to deal with the various lowlifes of the world?
Updated Dec 19 2019
Because of the nature of the escort and provider business, scammers and bad citizens are attracted to it to take advantage of potential clients, who may be unwilling to go to law enforcement if they’re scammed and/or robbed
Please take the time to read our guide on how to spot fake ads and avoid being scammed.
Here at Skipthegames we’ve seen five main types of problems that people have to deal with:
- Posts made so people can just steal deposits
- Posts where people try to steal your credit card or other personal information
- Posts made for the sole purpose of blackmailing anyone that tries to contact the provider in the ads
- Providers that don’t look anything like their photos
- An appointment that is nothing but a setup for a robbery
If you live in a jurisdiction where prostitution or escorting is illegal and you want to stay out of trouble with the law, read this article.
Ways to spot a fake post
These indications do not guarantee that you will identify 100% of scams, but they are very reliable signs of a fake provider ad:
- The post is overly vulgar and direct. For example, “Horny mom wants your cock right now in her ass“.
- The post shows overly sexualized photos or actual scenes of sexual intercourse. This isn’t banned on this website, but the majority of providers are discreet.
- The post is too good to be true. If photos in the ad looks anything like the ones below,
and the ad says they offer $50 QV, move on. These are photos stolen from somewhere on the Internet. If you’ve talked to the provider, and their prices seem more realistic, make sure you verify the image of the person.
- The photos in the post look like someone’s Facebook photo profile. Scammers are running automated programs that go out and download random images from Facebook, and then they use those to create unique ads, making it harder to spot the scams. Remember that providers are trying to sell you something. If the post’s photos don’t look like they’re trying to make a sale, be wary.
- Posts where someone is called a police informant, or posts giving you an address of a provider and saying “come on over”, or “I just love sex, everything is free”. These posts are made by competitors or jilted/annoyed exes in an attempt to harass a provider.
- Posts that ask you to join an Onlyfans club, private Snapchat, or some other group before a meetup.
How to verify the image of a provider
By verifying their image, we mean making sure the provider looks like their photos.
Ask the provider to send you a photo of themselves holding up 3 fingers, or holding up a piece of paper with a handwritten word on it.
You can also request to video chat with the provider to see them.
Please realize that there are “Picture Collectors” out there, who call up providers and ask for photos, and then never end up seeing them, wasting a provider’s time. Providers are aware of this type of “customers”, but one verification photo or a short video chat should be fine.
We suggest phrasing your request like this:
I understand that there are pic collectors out there, but I’m not one of those. There are a lot of scams out there, and I would just like to make sure you’re real. Please send me a photo of yourself in the mirror holding up 3 fingers. No nudity is necessary.
If a provider refuses to send you a verification photo, or video chat with you, move on — there are others out there. If they send you a photo without the piece of paper or without holding up 3 fingers that you asked for, ask again. If you still don’t get the verification photo, move on.
Types of fake ads
Ads made for stealing the deposit
These are fake ads that are set up to draw a client in with the only goal of stealing a “deposit” for the date. Once they get the deposit, they cancel at the last minute or simply never show up for the meeting.
This type of scam is done by a wide range of people — from con artists in Bangladesh/Nigeria to regular Western women, who do look like their photos and make a better living asking for deposits or “payment up front” rather than actually providing services.
Deposits are a tricky matter. In this business, there are plenty of bad clients, who get their jollies out of making appointments with providers, then just not showing up (in the cases of an incall), or sending them to the wrong address in the case of an outcall. One can see how this can be very annoying for a provider, and cost them both time and money.
For both incalls and outcalls, we recommend talking with a provider first. Initial contact by text is fine, but if the provider refuses to talk to you, this is a huge red flag. Then you should verify their image.
Always ask a provider what area she serves first, without telling her where you are located. This is because a lot of deposit scammers make multiple posts with multiple accounts over different areas. If they ask you where you are located, or don’t tell you, move on.
For outcalls, we recommend offering to pay for a Lyft/Uber for a provider. Here’s how to do that: https://ride.guru/content/newsroom/how-to-request-an-uber-for-your-friend
Some providers may be uncomfortable with an Uber or Lyft option, as they have to give a new client their approximate location, and they may not want to do that and prefer to drive themselves. In this case a deposit is reasonable, but do make sure to verify the provider’s image first. The amount of the deposit should depend on how far the provider has to drive to get to you.
If the provider tells you that
- they don’t accept cash for security reasons
- you have to send a deposit because that will prove you’re not working for law enforcement
- they’ve received counterfeit money before and now only work electronically
- they want to be paid in gift cards
- you must join their private snapchat or onlyfans or some other club first before a meetup (and it only costs very little…)
then move on: these are all sure tells that the provider is fake.
Ads where a scammer tries to steal your credit card or personal information
Again, similar to the fake deposit ads, these ads use photos of very good-looking people.
The goal here is to get you to contact the person who posted the ad. They will typically reply very quickly, saying that they can meet up with you whenever and wherever you want. All you need to do is “verify your identity” — for the safety of the escort, of course.
They’ll send you to a site like http://SafeDatingFun.com/, http://AdultProfileFinder.com/, or http://SafeDateTonight.com/, typically with a direct link to a profile photo. This profile photo will always show your current location as the location of the “escort” in question.
The aim of this scam is to steal your credit card information. Don’t be fooled.
These sites will then have you sign up to “verify your identity”. Some will use age verification as an excuse. Sometimes they will say they won’t charge your credit card, other times they may charge your credit card a dollar.
Don’t be fooled: the aim of this scam is to steal your credit card information.
Never enter your credit card information as part of a verification process.
While the blackmail attempts are currently rare, their number is on the rise.
Here’s how the blackmail works:
You contact a provider, and they then use your email or phone number to lookup your identity. Then they threaten to tell either your wife or your coworkers that you were trying to see a provider — unless you pay them. If you do pay them, they will continue to extort more and more money out of you.
Blackmail is a serious crime in all jurisdictions, and if this happens to you, we recommend going to law enforcement.
Fortunately, the best way to fight this type of scam is to simply avoid it happening to you, which is easy to do. If you are not single and/or you are worried about your coworkers finding out about you seeing a provider, we recommend you contact them from a phone that’s not your main phone. Simply pick up a very cheap pay-as-you go phone in any Walmart or other convenience store. With these type of phones you don’t have to register your name. (Remember to pay cash for the phone.)
If you’re contacting the potential provider by email, make sure not to use your work or your main personal email. Create another email at gmail (verifying it with your new phone, if necessary) and use that.
Some providers have a screening process that they ask you to go through for their personal safety and security. If you feel uncomfortable sharing the information they’re asking about you, simply explain that you’re married and you’d rather not divulge certain details over the phone, and ask if they have an alternative. Tell them you’d be happy to provide them with any information face to face and proof of your identity or occupation before any kind of activity takes place. Some provider’s will not accept this, and some will.
Another option is for you to provide the requested information over a voice call to lower the chances of leaving a paper trail that the blackmailer could use.
Providers that don’t look anything like their photos
This one happens somewhat frequently. You see a gorgeous girl in an advertisement:
You call her up, she sounds sweet, 30 minutes later she’s knocking at your hotel room door, you open the door in your robe, all ready to greet her and then boom!
Let’s just say, this wasn’t just a little bit of photoshopping.
In other circumstances, you may have responded to an with a blonde photos, then a brunette arrives at your door, telling you “Oh, I just dyed my hair yesterday and I haven’t taken new photos yet.” This happens when a few girls (or guys) work together, the person you call is busy, and they send their friend, thinking if someone shows up at your door, you aren’t going to turn them away.
The easiest way to guard against this is, when you’re making an appointment, politely ask to verify the provider’s image. When communicating with the provider by email, you may want to write something like:
Hi Barbie, before we set up a meeting, I’m wondering if you can send me a photo of yourself in the mirror holding up a piece of paper with the writing ‘Hi Fred‘ on it. I know your time is valuable, and I apologize for the inconvenience, but in the past I’ve been a victim of a bait-and-switch scam a few times: the provider photos in the ads looked nothing like the actual person that showed up at my door. I respect your privacy and I don’t need to see any nude photos, but I’d like to be able to generally see how your body looks as well, again just to make sure you look like the photos in the ad.
Thank you for your time,
This will both give the provider a sense of security as you’re letting them know you’ve been with providers before, acknowledging your respect for their time and privacy, and showing that you’re a polite person. If the provider doesn’t want to take a couple minutes to snap a few photos proving that their photos are real, then either they aren’t real, or they’re not going to give you good service. Best to move on.
Avoiding robberies by providers
There are two main types of robberies that happen in this business:
- Meetings that are setups for a robbery
- Opportunistic robberies, where you pay your provider an agreed-upon fee, and they suddenly dash out of the hotel room with the money. Alternatively, you may be robbed whilst you’re in the shower or some variation on this.
Realize that you can never be 100% safe in this business, especially if you’re seeing a provider in an area where prostitution is illegal or semi-legal. Some providers will take advantage of this by wagering that you won’t go to the police if they rob you. Accept that there will always be some risk, and that your best course of action is to minimize your risks, and if something bad does happen to minimize the potential damage.
With that in mind, a small selection of advice:
- Never bring and unknown provider to your own place of residence, regardless of whether you are single or not.
- Get the provider to verify their image with you before setting a date. This will not only let you verify their looks, but may also deter a provider from robbing you, as she will know you have her photo.
- When seeing a provider in their place of business, only bring the money you need for your date and a possible tip. Don’t bring your wallet nor any of your ID.
- If you are driving to the provider’s place, and it isn’t an upscale hotel, park at least half a block away and walk to the location. You can choose to leave your key in a magnetic car lock box under your car, or take your car key with you, depending on the area where you leave your car.
- When seeing a provider in their place of business, after walking into their room, greet the provider nicely and take a quick look around to make sure no one else is there. Make sure the apartment or hotel door is then locked with the chain or extra door stop in place to prevent anyone else from entering and surprising you. If the provider gets worried when you do this, just smile and say, “I once got robbed by a provider’s partner entering with a keycard she’d given her boyfriend, so I have to do this for my own security. You can check me for any kind of weapon if you’d like, but if you’re nervous about this I’ll have to leave for my own safety.”
- If you’re seeing a provider in your hotel room, make sure you have the cash on hand to pay them, and lock away your wallet and other valuables like a phone or wristwatch in the room safe, or hide them somewhere high out of reach and out of sight, if the room doesn’t have a safe.
- If a provider comes to visit you in your hotel room, take a look through the keyhole first, then open the door with the chain attached and again look around, just to make sure there are no unwelcome extra visitors in the hallway. After the provider enters your room, give her a chance to look around, and then close and lock the door.
- If the provider is traveling, or you’ve never met them before, there is a somewhat increased risk of the provider taking the money and dashing out the door while you’re in the shower or washroom. Some people insist on not paying in advance because of this, but you’ll find that providers who have been ripped off before will be nervous unless you pay them in advance. This can lead to a poor session or a conflict instead of a session. You’ll have to determine what you do on a case by case basis, but we always suggest giving the provider the money upfront, and then letting them know that you will gladly tip after the session if you’re happy. This should put the provider at ease, and give them additional motivation.
- Don’t give a provider money to “pay for the hotel room”, or to “buy condoms in the store” or to “pay for parking” — in short, to walk out for kind of errand before you start your session. If a hotel room needs to be paid first, walk with the provider over to the desk to pay, or go pay it yourself, then return.
- Be careful before sending a deposit.
- Talk to a provider on the phone before meeting, and ask for the provider verify their image, or video chat with you.
- If you are not single, or are worried about friends finding out about you seeing a provider, do not use your own personal/work email or phone to contact a provider.
- Going to the provider: Don’t take extra cash or your wallet to your meeting, or your car key. Take a quick walk around the hotel room first to make sure no one else is in there, lock the hotel door using the chain or the extra bar to make sure no one can barge in.
- Seeing a provider in your room: Only have the cash you need, put the rest of your belongings in a safe or hide them. Make sure the door is locked after letting the provider enter your room.
- Paying for services in advance will depend on your relationship with the provider.
If you know of a scam ad somewhere on our site, .
If you have been scammed, please include screen captures of all messages between you and the provider and a screen capture of any money transfer you’ve made. You may blur out any of your personal information in the transfer except your name.
If you have been robbed by a provider, because of the number of false reports we receive, we require a copy of a police report, or some kind of additional verification (like a link to another forum where this provider’s illegal actions are discussed) to take action against the provider.
In all reports, please include a link to the post in question, such as, for example,
You can also send the link to the ad by “sharing” the web page to your email from your mobile phone.